What is Success?
It’s more than your job or profession. There is inner success and outer success. Where you have inner success, your life reflects outer success. And vice versa.
You were born to succeed, no matter what. You set yourself up for success before you were born by designing your perfect life plan. You don’t have to be a high-powered sales genius, billionaire, an entrepreneur, or live a fast-paced, over-the-top, public life to be a success. You just need to be true to yourself.
If your life is somehow out of balance, not going well for you, if you are feeling empty inside, tired all the time, or unfulfilled it’s because you are running your life by someone else’s standards. It’s not your fault, and it’s not their fault. It’s part of cultural programming, and you can learn to change it.
You were meant to be the sole judge of whether you are a success or not. Only you know whether you are being true to yourself. Your feelings will tell you.
Start noticing what is happening in your body as you go about your day. When you walk out the door on your way to work, how is your stomach feeling? Is it tight or relaxed? How about your shoulders – relaxed or tight? Are you looking forward to your day or just hoping to cope?
How about the people in your life? What is happening in your body when you are with your spouse, your children, your friends and associates?
Suddenly becoming aware of your feelings can be overwhelming. But you don’t have to do anything about the feelings you notice. At first, just notice the feelings and sensations and whether they are negative or positive.
Obviously, the negative feelings are telling you that you need to make some changes. And the changes need to be made within you before appropriate outer changes can show up.
For example, perhaps you hate your job. An inappropriate outer change might be to immediately quit. However, quitting immediately could be appropriate if your working conditions are unsafe. You get the picture.
The same is true when resolving situations with people in your life. First, look within. What is your part in the situation? Again, it’s not your fault, it’s misunderstanding. Conflict means it’s time to learn.
In extreme cases, you’ll need to take immediate action. For example, if you are an abuser, get help now. Your life is precious. Don’t waste another minute of it abusing. If you are the abused, get out now. Then get help to clear abuse from your life.
For most of us, the circumstances are not so extreme. The key to resolving conflict in relationships is to first ask yourself what you have to learn from it. You are playing a role in the conflict even if you perceive yourself as the victim. Be kind to yourself and suspend judgment as you seek the answers you already have within.
Pay attention to the positive feelings you have, as well. Pat yourself on the back for all the joyful and fulfilling feelings in your life. You have created the circumstances that bring them to you.
You can make room for more good feelings in your life. For example, you may not like your job, but there are other things you enjoy doing or that you’re good at. You could take the time to pursue them. By honoring your good feelings, you are creating more possibilities.
Maybe you have a yearning to do something you haven’t even considered because it seems impossible. If you are yearning for something it’s a good indication that it has something to do with your life purpose.
You are in charge of your life. You can take control of it by taking responsibility for it. You have the power to change your life by changing yourself. Seek help when you need it. Help is everywhere.
I just read this over, and I think it might sound glib – like it’s the easiest thing in the world to be yourself. It’s not, and you have to work at it. Believe, me, I know. I’m sharing with you some things I’ve learned, and I’m still learning.
It’s part of everyone’s purpose to learn to live according to their own values and standards and to follow their own path. The rewards are beyond anything I could describe to you. So I hope you try it. You will like it.
Live your purpose every day.
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- Quit Dreaming of Success. (xemion.com)