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Why Isn’t The Law of Attraction Working?
By Andrea Mathews
This article is from OM Times magazine. I just had to share it with you because so many people are asking this question. Do you know who you really are? Share your thoughts with us!
When the law of attraction first came into public awareness approximately 20 years ago, with the writings of Ester and Jerry Hicks and Rhonda Byrne, the thinking was that if you thought positive thoughts, you would attract positive things into your life. This notion was taken very seriously, to the point that many started consciously watching each thought and each word, lest it produce negative consequences. But after a while people began to realize that this wasn’t really working.
So, it was thought it best to include emotions into the paradigm. Now we were not only to think positive but we were to feel positive as well. Well, it turns out that that didn’t work so well either, so then we started exploring the deeper regions of the psyche for that saboteur. The shadow was now the culprit who was keeping us from fulfilling our dreams. But since we didn’t know much about how to work with the unconscious, we sought out healers who were to cut the chords to that old dark material and we would then be free, finally to work our vision boards and affirmations so that our dreams would finally come true. But alas, because in order to work with unconscious material we have to make it conscious, that didn’t work either.
So, what is the problem? It is possible that the whole thing is just unfounded? Well, before we throw the baby out with the wash, we might want to consider the possibility that we need to revise the law. And if we are going to do that, we might want to find out if the soul is really in agreement with the way we are taught to work with this law. For if the soul is actually in charge and the soul doesn’t want to work the way the law of attraction has us working, then the law is not going to work.
Well, it turns out that the soul is in charge and we are not meant to be striving moment-by-moment to bring home the bacon of that financial windfall or that big house in the mountains. That’s just not what it’s all about. It’s about the soul.
The soul’s efforts are always fruitful. That old Bible scripture: My word shall not return to me empty” found in Isaiah 55:11, tells the real story. The soul will accomplish all that it incarnates to accomplish in a given lifetime. And what the soul wants is for us to come to know ourselves as the divine beings we are. It wants us to get in touch with the deepest essence of who we are as Divine Self. And that’s its only intention. Why? Because once upon a time, in a faraway land, long ago, we all took on the duality trance state as our way of seeing ourselves. Because form was created by formlessness, and because every creative endeavor involves the perpetuation of infinite possibility, form asked itself–am I now separate from formlessness, since we appear to be so different?
We’ve been trying to answer that question ever since. So, our entire journey–incarnation after incarnation–is all about finally coming back to the place where we recognize form and formlessness as One. When we do finally unite form and formlessness in our conscious experience, the entire Universe will change and shift into the next stage of evolutionary soul desire.
So, we are not attracting based on our conscious efforts to think positive thoughts and feel positive feelings–an exercise in repression. And we are not attracting based on our efforts to march into the unconscious wearing our army boots and kicking over the gravestones of unresolved issues so that we can kick out any “negative” thoughts and feelings that might arise from that issue–a further exercise in more repression.
Rather we are attracted to and by all of those people, places, events, circumstances and relationships which will bring us to closer and closer awareness of who we are as divine beings–form united with formlessness as conscious experience. Everything that occurs in our lives is brought about for that one reason–so that we can come to know who we really are, below all the masks and costumes of survival.
We can relax then into the flow of life and trust that we are always getting there. We can stop trying to push the river by demanding that the Universe comply with our silly little bargains that IF we think only positive thoughts, and feel only positive feelings, THEN we will get everything we want in life. We are getting everything our souls want constantly and we live in an ever evolving loop of soul desire and fulfillment. So, the question isn’t how can I fulfill my dreams for the external to make me happy. The question is, “Who am I really?” And the answer isn’t to strive after a totally positive mind and totally positive feelings so that the Universe will come into compliant with our dualistic version of life. The answer is to be still, step into the stillness, step into the silence of beingness to find out who we are.
For more from OM Times, go to http://www.omtimes.com.
Why You Will Fail to Have a Great Career
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In this funny and blunt TED talk , Larry Smith pulls no punches when he calls out the absurd excuses people invent when they fail to pursue their passions. How weird are you? Watch and find out.
Ack!
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My computer is half-down. That is, it freezes up after accessing the Internet, but word processing works fine. Until I get it fixed, I will be accessing the Internet through alternative means (another computer). The weird thing is, this is happening on both my desktop and laptop. And my modem is working perfectly.
Oh well, nothing to do but learn from this. Hm. I was considering the life lesson(s) that may be in this as I watched the mouse arrow skipping, rather than gliding, across the screen, a signal that the computer was about to freeze up. The message that came to me was, “Start, stop – start, stop.” Could I be doing this in my life some way? Yes, I could, I thought. Starting new things is always exciting to me, but I tend to lose interest as soon as the newness wears off, or when I begin to doubt myself (all tendencies reflected in my Chaldean Soul Chart).
Another message came through as I contemplated the mouse’s arrow – “Focus.” I’ve been having challenges focusing lately. The message made perfect sense.
I now have two lessons to learn from this unpleasant surprise. More lessons may come forward as I explore these. I’ll keep you posted.
In former times, I would have been wringing my hands and loudly lamenting my bad luck. But I have gradually transformed issues connected to this type of situation and experienced the advantages of making other choices. Not easy, but the effort has paid off in undreamed-of ways.
Meanwhile, I may not respond immediately to your comments, but I will do my best to keep up with you. I hope all goes well with you and your computer, and thanks for your support.
Getting What You Want
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Manifesting Intentions
Many years ago, at the start of my metaphysical training, I learned how to manifest intentions. I’d never before purposefully used my thoughts to get what I wanted, and I was excited to learn. My first experience involved moving.
I wanted to move to a particular apartment building in my neighborhood, which was not easy to get into. It seemed everyone else wanted to be there, too. It was a small building with only four units, and the apartments were very attractive. You had to watch the rental ads like a hawk to see when one was available.
I had looked at an apartment in this building before, and had just missed getting it, as it had been rented earlier that day. I was really disappointed, but I decided to apply what I was learning about manifestation to make sure I got the next one that became available.
Taking Action
I enlisted the help of my son, who was 11 at the time, and we visualized ourselves living there. We talked about the mirrored living room wall that I loved and went shopping for kitchen accessories and furniture. I watched the neighborhood paper closely for the ad that would surely show up for us. After a few weeks, I stopped looking. I can’t remember if I was distracted by other concerns, or whether I became discouraged, or I just forgot.
Letting Go
One day at work some time later, I happened to pick up the paper, and there was the ad I was waiting for. I immediately called the number and told the landlady not to rent that apartment to anyone else. I would be there after work to sign the contract. When I arrived, she told me the ad had gone into the paper that day, and I was the first to call.
I was overjoyed. The process was so easy, it seemed like magic. The hard part was waiting. I think eventually forgetting to look in the paper was a way of letting go and allowing the universe to bring me what I wanted at the right time. I’ve learned if I want to manifest an intention, I need to trust that the universe is working with me on it.
Your experiences?
Live your purpose every day.
Friday Funnies – Engrish
“Laughter is the shortest distance between two people.” Victor Borge.
I love this quote!
I found a site that has only clean jokes on it. It is called:
Will and Guy’s Funny Clean Jokes
Will and Guy’s Funny Clean Jokes, Short Stories and Amusing Pictures
http://www.guy-sports.com/humor/pictures/picture_engrish_japanese.htm
You can tell by the name of the site that Will and Guy are English. But that’s okay, because some of these jokes are actually funny (sorry Brits, but sometimes we just don’t get your humor).
Here is what Will and Guy have to say about Engrish.
Engrish is the name for the occidental writing which appears on Japanese signs. The companies, or their sign writers, wish to give a product cachet, but the result is a funny English phrase. To the Japanese readers, the Engrish words are meaningless since most speak English about as well as most westerners speak Japanese. Little do they know that the English translation has a fatal flaw.
And there you have your Engrish lesson for the week. Have a great weekend!
P.S. Sorry about the terrible formatting (this part was supposed to be at the bottom). I need someone who knows how to do this stuff.
Live your purpose every day.
You Were Born That Way
This was the original title of my book until someone suggested it might be interpreted in a way I hadn’t intended. For instance, some people might
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think the book was about the things they didn’t like about themselves or that it could be an excuse for some people to act like jerks. So I changed the title to “You Were Born to Succeed.”
And you were also born that way – that is, with certain characteristics and qualities that make you unique. If you were a computer, it would mean that all your programs had been automatically installed before birth. And they would all be up and running from the minute you came out of the womb. Some of your programs wouldn’t be evident until you reached a certain age, but they would be there nonetheless.
Your programs, installed some time after conception and before birth, would consist of all your spiritual knowledge and wisdom in addition to all the information needed to build your physical body. Unlike a computer, your programs would grow and develop with experience. As a newborn, you knew who you were, where you came from, and where you were going. Following the rules of the game on earth, you forgot all this a short time after you took your first breath.
But the information is still there, and easily accessible if you choose to uncover it, in the letters and numbers of your birth name and birth date. If you are one of the few who have learned to live in your heart and trust your instincts, you don’t need this information. For you, it’s backup in case you lose your way, since you are automatically following your life purpose. If you are not one of these few, you may want to look yourself up in your own personal book of life by learning to use Chaldean numerology through my book (click on the Select Authors image) or by contacting me, and I will open the book for you.
My wish is that everyone on earth lives a successful life by following their purpose. My intention is to help as many people as I can to accomplish it.
Live your purpose every day.
Interview with Nancy Fairbrother
Hello Everyone!
We are delighted to have author Nancy Fairbrother amongst us today at Musikdiv India Online Magazine at our Special 'Authors Festival' interview series to tell us about her new book You Were Born to Succeed: Finding Your Purpose Through Numerology !
Please read on ...
Have you ever wondered if you have a divine purpose in life? This book shows that you do and reveals how to discover it by using the ancient science of Chaldean numerology.
In A Rut
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Millions of people are overwhelmed with financial, relationship, career, and health challenges. They are stuck, frustrated, and exhausted. It’s hard for them to stay motivated. Maybe you are one of them.
Usually when you’re stuck, it means you’ve lost touch with who you are. What if you could learn a simple way to get back on the path you were meant for? The occult science of numerology can help you get out of your rut and make a new start.
A Brief History of Numerology
Let’s look at the word occult. It’s a simple word with a simple meaning: hidden. Profound and brilliant sciences, such as astrology and numerology, were developed thousands of years ago to empower people to be the best they could be. They were so effective that rulers took them away from the masses so they could establish undisputed control. They became hidden, or occult sciences, permitted only to the wealthy and powerful.
Eventually, these ancient sciences became a source of fear that continues to this day. For this reason, they have been largely overlooked as the practical tools they are for gaining fulfillment in life.
It is natural to fear what we don’t know. But learning about what we fear transforms our lives by freeing us to make more choices. I am very excited about re-introducing the ancient science of numerology to everyone who is searching for meaning in their life.
The Benefits of Numerology
Numerology is an ideal step toward self-realization. It provides the foundation upon which to build the life you’ve always wanted.
In about an hour you can rediscover who you are by learning simple calculations based on your birth name and birth date. Numerology shows you how to capitalize on your strengths and how to build strength from your challenges. Best of all, you learn that all it takes to be successful is to be yourself.
Anyone can use numerology. It works for people of every age and walk of life. Parents can use numerology to guide their children to become fulfilled, mature adults. It can help you resolve emotional issues, discover the right calling or profession, and gain insight into relationships, financial issues, and health issues.
I am privileged to help people start on the path to personal freedom by using this ancient science. I write about it to help change the perception of numerology from something fearful to a benefit full of possibility. One day this science will no longer be termed occult.
You were born with a convenient, easy-to-understand instruction book cleverly concealed in your birth name and birth date. As the saying goes, “When all else fails, read the instructions.”
Live your purpose every day.
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We Are On Purpose!
Alyse Bingham, an enterprising author and blogger, interviewed me the other day, and I am excited to share the interview with you – my first online. To learn more about this Wonder Woman of writing, click on the We Write Worlds button on the right. We are on purpose!
Author Interview with Nancy Fairbrother
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How to Solve Problems Without Fighting
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I have a fiery emotional nature, so I tend to blow up instantly when I am angry. Fortunately, I don’t get angry often any more because I’ve put a lot of dedication into resolving my anger issues. And I mean fortunately for myself as well as others, because I used to feel terrible after an angry outburst; guilty because I made the other person feel bad, and sad because I was still angry.
I’m going to share something about fighting that I learned in grad school. It’s so simple, I wondered why I hadn’t figured it out myself – but that’s what school is for. This technique alone was worth the money I spent for my education.
Even though the process is simple it’s not so easy, because you have to let go of your ego to make it work. So here goes.
There are three steps to successful outcomes with touchy subjects:
1. Diffuse your anger
2. Talk calmly about the situation
3. Talk about yourself, not the other person.
In my experience, there are two scenarios in which an argument can occur. One is in the moment when an irritating incident occurs and the other is some time after the incident, in which case anger has been simmering on the back burner for a while.
If you get angry in the moment, tell the other person you need to leave and will talk about this later. Then do something to diffuse your anger. If you’re angry about something that happened in the past, tell the person you’d like to talk. Make sure you are feeling calm.
For example, say your husband leaves his towels on the bathroom floor every time he takes a shower. You have spoken to him about this before (probably not so nicely) and you are angry about it.
The first thing to do is dissipate your anger energy. Screaming into your pillow, going for a run or to the gym, beating up your mattress, breathing deeply, or counting to 100 are all effective techniques. Just say nothing to your husband until the rage is gone. Then calmly state that you would like to talk to him about something and ask if this is a good time.
If it’s not a good time for him, set a time that will work for both of you. Wait respectfully until the appointment. No pouting, etc. At the appropriate time, tell him what you want to talk about. Calmly let him know how you feel when you find towels on the bathroom floor. For example, maybe you do your best to keep the house tidy and, when you trip over towels in the bathroom, you feel defeated, or like no one cares, or unappreciated. Whatever is true for you.
Do not accuse him. The basic language is, “When you do/say this, it makes me feel this way.” Now you are talking about yourself. It neutralizes the fight-or-flight energy of anger and opens up space for discussion. And it puts you in the driver’s seat in your own life when you are authentic about your feelings. You don’t have to resort to drama (pouting, yelling, shutting down, etc.) to make yourself heard.
I remember practicing this with a lovely man I was living with. I was really frustrated with him, but I didn’t want to be the old me and attack him. I decided to take responsibility for myself and try to work out some way we could both be winners.
He was remodeling the kitchen, and we had been without a sink for weeks. We washed dishes in the laundry room, and I used the kitchen table for preparing meals (no kitchen counter, either). I had asked him many times when he thought we could get a sink, and his answer was always about having the time.
At the end of my rope one day, I asked him again. Same old answer. I had been thinking about this for a long time, and I had a solution. I told him I had decided to do something about this that I could control; something to keep myself from going crazy. I could see that he was getting ready for a confrontation. Instead, I calmly said, “I’m not going to cook any more. We can eat sandwiches; it will be easier.”
The next weekend we bought a kitchen sink. He had it installed within days, including the new kitchen counter.
It felt so good to let go of anger and be myself throughout this process. And it opened up more space for loving in our relationship. When you are genuine, the other person is more likely to be genuine, as well. Anger makes people feel threatened, and they automatically take a defensive stand when confronted.
What if the other person doesn’t want to discuss the matter, but resorts to their own anger drama instead? Stay calm and end the conversation in a civil manner, such as, “I hoped we could talk about this. Maybe another time.” If you feel angry, take the time to dissipate the energy and let the incident go.
The key is that you are taking charge of your life by changing the only person you can – yourself. The other person may eventually take a cue from you and decide to open up. You can’t change anyone, but it only takes one person to create a safe space for change.
Live your purpose every day.
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