Monthly Archives: June 2011

10 Power Questions to Improve Your Personal Development

The Question Is What Is the Question?
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Here is a brilliant article from Steve Aitcheson’s blog. It offers a powerful way to figure out where you are and where you want to go. To visit Steve’s blog, see my Blogroll. Go Steve!

How much time do you really spend on your personal development?

Today I want to ask you ten questions about your personal development and I’d like you to give yourself a score out of 10 for each question.  After each question there’s a few other questions to help you answer the main question.  Just give yourself a score out of ten for each of the main questions in bold.

Question 1: How clear are you about where you are going in life?

Do you know what you want from life? Do you know where you are going in life? do you have plans to get to where you want to go?

Question 2: How competent are you in the things you do in life?

Do you do just enough in your work to get by? Do you have mastery over the different areas of your life and work? Do you need to learn more to become more competent?

Question 3: How confident are you as a person?

How confident are you in general? How confident do you feel within yourself in new surroundings? How confident do you feel speaking up?

Question 4: How open are you to asking for help in your life?

Can you ask for help, when needed, or do you tend to struggle along?

Question 5: How expressive are you about your thoughts, feelings and life plans?

Can you express your thoughts and feelings to others when required or do you keep everything inside?

Question 6: How creative are you as a person?

Do you express your creativity in life, at work, at home?

Question 7: How open are you when it comes to trying new things in life?

Are you able to try new things without fear of embarrassment? Do you try new things without really bothering what others think?

Question 8: How empathetic are you as a person?

Can you put yourself in someone else’s shoes to see things from their point of view? Are you open to listening to what others feel? Are you open to different beliefs?

Question9: How true to your beliefs and values do you live your life?

Do you live your life according to your beliefs and values or do you stray from them when things get a little tough? Do you listen to others first before putting your own values first?

Question 10: How much control do you have over your own emotions?

Can you control your anger? Can you show your emotions appropriately? Do you think irrationally a lot?

Your score

Once you have completed this, add all the scores together to give yourself a score out of 100 – What was your score?

What do you notice about all the questions above?

All the questions are internally driven.  So there are no external factors involved in trying to improve these areas of your life, it’s all you.

This means that if you worked on each area above and tried to improve your score by 1 or 2, your life would improve dramatically.  Not only that, but if you improve your score in one area it will have a knock on effect in other areas of your life, so improving each of the above ears has a cumulative effect on other areas e.g. If you improved how clear you were about what you are doing in life, this would improve your confidence, your competence, and your determination to live by your values.  So all of the areas are intertwined and have a knock on effect on each other.

Asking questions like these often enough will keep you focused about your personal development and willingness to improve your life in all different areas.  Breaking it down into questions like these don’t make the task of personal development so daunting, and it gives us areas to focus on and try and improve.

What areas could you improve upon?

You might also like:
10 Power Questions to Improve Your Personal Development
Asking the right questions to change your life
Mind Alchemy Day 15 – Ask the Right Questions
Focus on the Right Questions, Not the Right Answers

No Reason to Protest

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I’ve never participated in a protest. I’m talking about a ranting protest that gets people hackles up and creates all kinds of storm activity. I would never participate in a protest because it begets nothing but more protest. And you never get beyond the protest. No solution is possible while people are directing mass anger toward the problem.

There are ways to achieve desired solutions without ranting about it. Just look at ad campaigns. We are bombarded with the positive results of this product or that one, and we buy it. We masses have been convinced of countless beliefs with just that one tactic. Pound a concept into us long enough (like helmets for bike riding) and we’ll cave sooner or later.

I might join a peace march. Think about it; everyone marching has peace on their minds, they carry peace banners and sing peace songs. They are building an energy of peace, not protest. The energy of peace is more likely to manifest peace.

Remember Martin Luther King’s March on Washington in 1963? Even if you’re too young to remember, you’ve heard about his “I Have a Dream” speech. In it, he didn’t talk against anything; he spoke powerfully about his vision for a positive outcome. He changed the lives of millions by uniting people in nonviolent objection. Gandhi changed the course of India’s history by uniting people in nonviolent objection. Come to think of it, Gandhi changed the world, too. He was the inspiration for Martin Luther King, Jr., and others like him.

Nonviolent tactics require extreme courage and commitment because of the extreme risk of losing your life (Gandhi, MLK, Anwar Sadat, Middle East freedom non-fighters). And can take a very long time to reach the desired conclusion (Nelson Mandela). Exploding in anger can be very satisfying. Blowing off steam makes you feel better – temporarily. The fallout always creates more problems.

No, my protests are limited to personal ranting in my little corner of the world until I get tired of that and work on finding a solution. Sometimes it takes a while.

Meaning of Life and the New Millennium

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I think many people would agree with me that life purpose is pretty important. I mean, if you’re going to be here on earth it’s most important to be doing what you were meant to do. If you’re not living your purpose, your soul is giving you clues. You’re yearning for something, searching; you feel empty inside. You may not know what it is, but you know there’s something missing. Maybe your job is making you miserable, or you’re having trouble in your relationships. Maybe you have health challenges or lack financial security. Your life reflects what you’re thinking about. You can tell what’s not working by the places where drama shows up in your life; by the things you worry about.

It’s no secret that we are affected by the planets; some obvious effects are the tides and the weather. It is also evident that our consciousness is affected. Time seems to be speeding up. Old routines and systems are coming apart. More and more people are thinking about their life purpose as the planets move into a unique alignment with the sun, which is on its way to alignment with the center of the Milky Way; a phenomenon which takes place only every 26,000 years.

Up to now, people have pretty much been living with what I call unresolved frustration. But, as this profound planetary alignment draws closer, more and more people are becoming aware of an inner knowing that things don’t have to be the same. There’s a sense of urgency for change, and people are looking for direction. Numerology is a practical tool anyone can use to help them take charge of their lives. Numerology guides you along a clear and specific path. Once you see your direction, you will discover many tools you can use to help and support you as you implement the life changes you want to make. By following your life purpose, you open up a world of endless possibility.

When I was starting out on my spiritual path, the subject of my life purpose was a major issue. Even though I was doing what I loved best – learning, and later teaching, about the mysteries of the human psyche, I wanted concrete evidence of my  purpose. The deeper I dove into my spirit, the more information I needed. I wanted specifics. Generalizations weren’t satisfactory (“Your purpose is to be happy.”) Yes, I agree, but how? What should I do? I wanted a clear picture, and I didn’t want to miss anything.

Then I discovered numerology; specifically, Chaldean numerology. And the lights came on. If you’ve ever driven through fog so thick you couldn’t see ten feet in front of you, hunched over the steering wheel, crawling along praying you won’t run into something ahead, and suddenly the fog lifts, you know what I mean. You relax, sit back in your seat, and breathe a sigh of relief. You drive on with confidence; you can finally see where you’re going. That’s how I felt.

I connected with my Chaldean Soul Chart like a ball hitting bells on a pinball machine. I found an identity I could identify with. I could see my future. I found so much more to appreciate in myself. How often do people come up to you and say, “I really think you’re perfect as you are?” That’s what you discover in your chart. And to think you created this perfection!

My Chaldean Soul Chart showed me all the issues that were tripping me up time and time again. I felt as if a heavy curtain had been parted. I saw specific challenges I could master. I was empowered. On top of that, I realized I could share this treasure with other people. I could help them find their purpose and discover more to love in themselves. I could help people live their lives in alignment with their spirit. I am excited about that.

So that’s why I’m sharing it with you. If you are yearning for something, chances are it’s your life purpose. Everything in your life hinges on your purpose. If your life isn’t going the way you want it to, it could be because you’re not fulfilling a part of the plan you designed for yourself. I invite you to purchase a copy of my e-book, “You Were Born to Succeed: Finding Your Purpose through Numerology,” and learn to create your own Chaldean Soul Chart. It’s only $2.99. Click the Lulu button on the right. You will be amazed at what you will learn.

If you are not inclined to create your own chart, I will do it for you. Email me at and we can arrange a private consultation.

“The purpose of life is a life of purpose.”  ~Robert Byrne

Numerology in Everyday Life: The Power of Personal Years

Are you frustrated by your finances, your relationships, your career, or your health? You may be resisting a very important yearly cycle. Everyone starts a new year twice each year. The obvious one, of course, is on January 1. The other one is when your Personal Year begins on your birthday.

I’ve been off the radar screen for a few weeks untying some pretty intricate knots in my psyche. I’ve never experienced anything like it before; especially going into relative isolation as I did; and significantly, a month before a new Personal Year was to begin. Doubt and hesitation had been nagging me for a while. Then it seemed as if a wall suddenly rose in front of me and I couldn’t go forward. I was stopped in my tracks. Being the psychotherapist that I am, I recognized issues that needed to be dealt with, so I let go and followed my emotions.

What came forward for me were issues of trust and love. Thanks to guidance from spirit and some powerful self-healing techniques, I have come through a challenging time with a positive shift in consciousness. I feel clearer than ever; like a purifying light has been turned on inside me, and I’m happy to be in touch again.

I am now experiencing deeper levels of trust and faith (giving up control – ack!). I do not pretend that my adventure with trusting is easy. Sometimes it feels like walking a tightrope over Niagara Falls without a net. The opening of my heart has given me a deeper sense of calm and peace along with new levels of excitement and enthusiasm for life. I’m experiencing new levels of compassion, and I feel deeply connected with spirit, with humanity, and with myself.

Paying attention to my feelings has given me countless opportunities to become the person I was born to be. Like most of us, I have my share of limiting beliefs that hold me back. And, like most of us, I have resistance to dealing with the issues behind them. But when I allow myself to face and resolve the unpleasant emotions that come forward, I experience freedom. I actually breathe more freely and feel lighter.

I’m moving from a Number 4 year to a Number 5 year; from a quiet time of building a firm foundation, getting all my ducks in a row, to a year of change and activity. The transition from one year to another can be challenging because you’re influenced by two vibrations; the old one is fading out and the new one is moving in. Consequently, the two energies can combine to produce uncertainty.

Moving into a Number 5 year sometimes makes me feel insecure about the future, since there are changes coming, sometimes fast and unexpected. That’s when I know I need to be thinking thoughts of what I want instead of what I fear. The positive side of a Number 5 year is that energy is moving, and it is easier to launch new projects. A Number 4 year is not the ideal time to launch new projects. It is excellent, however, for reorganizing, systematizing, and developing discipline in order to be ready for the action and changes coming up.

During my last Number 5 year (9 years ago), I moved, started a new job, bought a new car, and began a new romance. The move was an unpleasant surprise and had to be done fast. The other events followed easily and naturally as the year unfolded. I had no idea any of these things would occur. That’s how a Number 5 year can be.

Everyone on earth is experiencing a personal year right now. Many people are just entering a new one. Personal years are important because they lead us step by step through important 9-year cycles called Pinnacles. Personal years present experiences that allow us to evolve; if we don’t evolve, we get stuck. Each year in the 9-year cycle creates a natural progression from beginning to end. Each cycle enables us to expand more deeply into our life purpose and rise to new levels of fulfillment.

If your year is turning out to be a bumpy one, you may be resisting its energy. It’s like swimming against a strong current; a lot of work for little advancement. If you are feeling impatient or bored with the pace of your life, you may be in a slower, quieter year. Understanding can help you use the energy in a positive way.

I think it would be fun to talk about your personal year. If you agree, leave your first name and your birth month and day (don’t need the year) as a comment to this post, and I’ll share with you the focus of your Personal Year. When you are in harmony with the energy of your Personal Year, you are creating the life you were meant to live. I’d love to hear about your experiences.