What if, as you lay on your death bed, you realized your goal in life was to be happy? At this point in your life, would you consider yourself on the path to fulfilling that goal?
Are you waiting until retirement to have a happy life? Do you think you are too old to have a happy life? Do you think having a happy life is a selfish goal? Are other people or circumstances preventing you from enjoying life?
If so, I invite you to consider that you don’t know your own strength. If you knew yourself as I know you, you would already be living a happy and exciting life. As a numerologist, I know you have the power to create the life you’ve always wanted. I’ve seen it in every chart I have ever done. You are no exception.
We were all born to succeed, and we all deserve to succeed. By creating a fulfilling life, we are making it easier for others to be successful, too. I know this is not the mindset most of us grew up with. We were taught to do what we were told, to conform to the wishes of others, to settle for less.
But we are in a new time now where the old paradigms no longer serve us. We are realizing that true success is in knowing who we are and following our purpose. Steve Jobs summed it up as well as anyone: “Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.”*
Now, more than ever, it’s time to look inside for answers. A positive step in that direction might be to take a look at my book, “You Were Born to Succeed: Finding Your Purpose through Numerology,” and decide for yourself whether it can help you. You can sample it by clicking the “Select Authors” image on the right. The book will show you how numerology works and teach you how to use numerology to discover your hidden powers of creation. It will show you how to help your children grow up to fulfill their purpose and make the world a better place just by being themselves.
Each of us is in charge of his/her life. You are the power behind your success. You deserve the best. Once you decide to be true to yourself, you will attract all the help you need to create the life you’ve always wanted.
So, what makes you happy? What are you waiting for?
I will start this discussion by saying that mine is, right now, rustic, no-knead bread toasted and slathered with unsalted butter, sprinkled with a little salt, accompanied by a hot, lovely cup of coffee. Been having this for breakfast every day for a while now. Can’t get enough.
If you like bread, try Princess Diana’s Bread Pudding below. Being the delightful person you are, I bet you can get someone to make it for you.
Being an ex-Rage Queen, I have learned many ways to handle anger when it arises. I thought it would be helpful if I shared them with you, just in case you should ever become angry. Heh-heh.
1. Own your anger. Take responsibility for it. Understand that, even if your feelings are justified, your aggressive, snide, abusive, or sarcastic reaction is not.
2. Forgive yourself. Recognize that your anger is bringing forward some of the most valuable lessons you will ever learn, and you have an opportunity to earn your “A”. You can grade yourself if you want to. Don’t kick yourself if you get an “F”. Just keep plugging for the “A”.
3. If you must, hit something – not someone. Sometimes people need to channel anger energy aggressively. Hit your mattress, pillows, or a punching bag.
4. Instead of yelling at the object of your anger, scream into a pillow until your anger subsides.
5. Take ten deep breaths before reacting. Here’s a special technique you can use. Inhale deeply into the bottom of your lungs either through your mouth or your nose. Your stomach will rise and you will feel the air filling your lungs all the way to the top. Do not hold your breath or control your exhale or push the air out. Let your breath out naturally. It will come out almost like a sigh. Without a pause, inhale again. This is called circular breathing, and it heals physically, mentally, and emotionally.
If you are doing this breath through your mouth, don’t take more than ten breaths. This is a therapeutic breath, and you might start activating deeper emotions which, in itself, is a good thing. But you would want a professional Transformational Breath facilitator to guide you through to resolution. Breathing in and out through the nose does not cause activation, and you can use this same process breathing normally whenever you are stressed.
6. Do something physical; go for a walk, work out, ride your bike, clean your house. You get the picture.
7. Cry till it doesn’t hurt any more.
8. Sing the blues – literally. Make up the words and the tune or sing your favorite blues song. Vocalizing gets the energy out.
9. Replay. If you lose control, apologize for that and leave the area. Then visualize yourself handling the situation calmly so that your needs are met. You can do this for past occurrences, as well. Practice makes perfect.
Obviously, you will do these before you react to the object of your anger. There is no rule that says you have to immediately handle what just happened. Leave the area and take care of yourself first. After you have diffused the energy, you can speak your mind calmly.
One more thing; if you are being physically abused (hit, slapped, thrown around) get out. That’s it. Out.
There’s nothing new in this list, except maybe Number 5, and you don’t have to do it that way. Regular deep breaths are also effective, as we all know. These techniques have been around forever because they work.
Seek counseling if you find that practicing these techniques is not having the effect of reducing your anger levels or the frequency of angry reactions.
Please share your experience with handling anger by leaving a comment. Other readers will be grateful learn from you.
What bugs you? What gets your goat? What’s wrong in your world? If you could narrow down your troubles to 3 or 4 clear issues, how would it change your life?
No matter what is bothering you, it’s a sign that there’s something for you to learn – there’s a lesson hidden behind the matter that will help you create a happier life. In numerology, problems are considered symptoms of challenges, important components of your life plan.
The word challenge in numerology refers to the source of emotions that are not serving you; emotions such as stubbornness, irritability, anger, depression, worry, fear, etc.
It’s easy to see these emotions as weaknesses, but you can also learn to see them as misunderstandings and a source of enlightenment. If you make a commitment to face them and learn from them, you will automatically begin to create the life you want.
Since challenges are part of your life plan, you have the power to transform them.
Challenges are derived from your birth date and appear in the Cycles section of your Chaldean Soul Chart (see my book, “You Were Born to Succeed: Finding Your Purpose through Numerology” by clicking on the Select Authors image on the right).
Most people have 3-4 challenges, and each challenge has a specific duration. You have a main challenge that is with you for your whole life, and three sub-challenges. The duration of the first sub-challenge depends on your birth date, and the duration of your second and third sub-challenges is 27 years each.
Below are some of the qualities of the nine challenges. Which ones most describe yours?
0. Indicates the ability to choose the appropriate solution. You need to learn to trust yourself to make the right decision once you have evaluated the facts.
1. Lacking self respect and personal boundaries; inability to stand up for yourself without stepping on other people’s toes. Learn assertiveness without aggressiveness.
2. Lack of self confidence; indecisive, pleasing others without regard for your own comfort or happiness, dependent on others for approval, taking things personally. Peace at any price.
3. Inability to express your true feelings, to express your creativity, to enjoy life. You believe you should be seen and not heard.
4. Lack of discipline, disorganized, impatient, careless, procrastination. Resistance to routine and structure.
5. Lack of responsibility, freedom at any price, excesses (alcohol, drugs, food, and sex), impulsiveness.
6. Unable to recognize the boundaries of others. Your sense of responsibility is working overtime. You become a martyr by doing for others what they could be doing for themselves. Resentment causes you to be self-righteous and judgmental.
7. Moody, withdrawn, and depressed when challenges arise; complaining instead of attempting to solve the problem, assuming instead of getting the facts, appearing to be a know-it-all.
8. Judging your value and the value of others by how much money and power you/they have. Competition is an exercise to prove self-worth, instead of a test of excellence. Afraid of power and of losing money.
Can you see how narrowing your focus down to 3 or 4 of these challenges could help you change your life?
It takes courage to face the challenges you have been mistakenly criticizing yourself for. The payoff is a happier life.
I am at my best when I can start my day in my favorite way: with a cup of cappuccino, relaxing on the sofa, watching the sun come up with my two kitties – one on each side of me, purring. I don’t think about anything, don’t read, don’t talk – just get used to being in the world again, wading in from the shallow end.
Today a different kind of post: a colleague and friend of mine, Life Coach, Jerry Lopper, has written about his experience doing his Chaldean Soul Chart. He shares his honest opinion here. See what he said.
I thought this post would be about freedom as in, “What is Freedom?” In my research I found many people have said wise things about freedom, which I thought of quoting in my article. But it didn’t quite hit the spot – it didn’t have the “that’s it” quality that makes me want to write.
During my research I stumbled across this WordPress Daily Post, “How Do You Stay True to Yourself?” That got me. The two questions I’m paraphrasing here attracted my attention, “How do you discover who you are?” and “What do you do about those qualities you don’t like in yourself?”
I enjoyed reading the comments. I admired the genuineness with which people shared the ways they are true to themselves, and the ones who either didn’t think it was an important question or didn’t know how to be true to themselves. I love that. I love it when people share from the heart.
Anyway, it started me thinking about back in the day when I didn’t know what I wanted, never mind know who I was. I remember doing an exercise in my spiritual growth group in which we were asked to write down what we wanted in life. I couldn’t think of a thing, and it wasn’t because I was a happy camper. All I could think of was what I didn’t want, which I already had. It was the hardest thing to finally have the courage to write down what I wanted from life.
As a matter of fact, it’s what started me on the road to becoming a metaphysician and psychotherapist; my own need for healing and to figure out who I was. I had no idea I might have the ability to create the life I always wanted, and I had no idea I would have a career in the mental health field.
One of the most powerful experiences I ever had was doing my Chaldean Soul Chart many years after that first experience, when I was already a metaphysical counselor and teacher of metaphysics. I had been drawn to numerology and had experimented with it, but wasn’t impressed by the results I got. So I dismissed it – until I discovered Chaldean numerology, that is. Talk about a breakthrough! It knew me like a book. It revealed answers to questions I’d had all my life. I was the kid in the candy store.
I wanted to share it with everyone. But before I did, I decided to test this tool to make sure it wasn’t a fluke. So I did the numbers of the people I knew best – my family, friends, and colleagues. I did two charts for each person – one using the most well-known Pythagorean method and one using the Chaldean method.
My guinea pigs would decide which one reflected their deepest soul qualities. The only criterion would be the experimentee’s own experience. I made no assessments, as I wanted to keep my bias out of the equation. In every case, Chaldean was the choice.
That’s when I knew I had a useful self-help tool I could share with everyone. That’s why this blog is about numerology.
When my practice expanded to include spiritual psychotherapy, even clients who had never heard of numerology benefited greatly from having their numbers done and from using their Chaldean Soul Charts in their counseling sessions.
The charts helped me counsel the whole person as opposed to focusing only on their issues, and helped my clients see themselves as already whole. Seeing themselves as whole persons took the emphasis off the idea that there was something wrong with them and shifted their focus to, “I’m a whole person who is out of balance right now. There is hope. I’m okay.”
From their charts, we used their core qualities to help bring balance back into their lives. They were able to use their issues as opportunities for growth instead of self criticism. And seeing their strengths helped them to recognize the talents they could develop into a life that would fulfill them. A sense of purpose boosted their self esteem. Basically, we put our attention on what was working and built on that.
If you are, as I was, lacking self confidence and self esteem, lacking a sense of direction, don’t know what you want, or feel you may have a calling but you don’t know what it is, you may benefit from having your numbers done by the Chaldean method or from using my book, You Were Born to Succeed: Finding Your Purpose through Numerology (just click on the “Select Authors” image), to do your own numbers.
Hmmm, I just happened to think about my first intention for this article. Being true to yourself is a pretty good definition of freedom, wouldn’t you say?
A pinnacle represents the highest you can go. You can’t go any higher. It’s the top of the mountain. It is reached by putting forth effort, taking action, having commitment, determination, discipline, inspiration, vision, and purpose.
That’s exactly what a pinnacle in numerology is, except it’s about reaching the pinnacle of personal achievement according to your life plan (which could include mountain climbing). It sounds like a lot of hard work; however, on one level it takes no effort at all, just the ability to trust yourself and follow your instincts. After that, it’s inspired action.
Pinnacles appear in the “Cycles” section of your Chaldean Soul Chart and represent periods in which you attract certain types of experience. There are 4 cycles. The duration of the first cycle varies according to your birth date, the 2nd and 3rd are each 9 years long, and the 4th and final one lasts for the remainder of life. Your age determines the pinnacle you are experiencing now.
These periods can be compared to paths up the slopes of your personal mountain. During these periods, you attract the specific kind of experiences that will help you fulfill your purpose. It’s not a matter of being forced. On the contrary, if you follow your path it seems to unfold automatically, effortlessly. You experience freedom and you open yourself to new possibilities.
Following your pinnacles is like being encouraged in a certain direction with no limitations. Your pinnacles guide you on a journey that gradually and safely unfolds your talents and capabilities. It’s resistance that produces struggle and uncertainty.
You always have a choice whether to take this journey or not. The great thing is that, on a soul level, you designed this plan to fit your every need . It can be an exciting journey if you allow your heart to open to its adventures.
Next are brief interpretations of the 12 pinnacles, 4 of which are present in your life plan. Details of the way they are expressed in your plan would depend on the numbers in your core qualities. Can you recognize your pinnacles?
In a 1 pinnacle you are engaged in activities that make you stand out from the crowd. The number 1 brings opportunities to promote new ideas and new ways of doing anything, depending on your core qualities. You are ahead of the pack. You are literally the “1” who is pioneering a new way.
During a 2 pinnacle, you are drawn to team activities and attract experiences involving cooperation and partnerships. You are able to see both sides of a situation, and may be involved in diplomacy. Many people make good marriages during a 2 pinnacle. Intuition is magnified, and you are sensitive to the needs of others.
A 3 pinnacle involves self expression. It can manifest in a variety of ways; through the visual arts, music, dancing, singing, and acting, or through speaking and writing. It can manifest on various levels, from taking lessons for fun to refining your talents on a professional level. Entertainment is important now whether it’s used as a business enhancer or it’s purely social.
Building is the chief influence during a 4 pinnacle, from creating more efficient systems to building skyscrapers. Experiences involving detail, discipline, orderliness, and step-by-step progression enhance your life plan and enable you to flourish. You are building a firm foundation for the future.
During a 5 pinnacle your experiences center around freedom and activity. You experience change (sometimes unexpected), adventure, travel, and expansion. It’s time to let go of the old and welcome the new. You need to be adaptable and flexible to adjust to new situations.
The 6 pinnacle brings experiences involving relationships in the home, the family, and the community. It features responsibility, balance, and helping others. Some people get married or divorced in this cycle. Your experiences focus on creativity, the arts, or healing. Your home is important as a place of refuge and a welcoming environment for family and friends.
During a 7 pinnacle, you experience a desire to find the truth beneath the surface – to solve the mystery behind the question. You are introspective. It’s a good time for spiritual housecleaning. You may be studying, probing the unknown, becoming an expert in your field. You enjoy being alone and need time to yourself to unwind at the end of each day.
The 8 pinnacle is about the physical world; leadership, power, possessions, and money. Your experiences will develop your talent for organization and management. You may receive a promotion at work. You may be responsible for other people’s money and possessions. Your experiences will involve responsibility, action, and accomplishment. You are the leader of the pack.
The 9 pinnacle involves humanitarian activities. You love people and welcome all types into your circle. Your experiences could include inventing a life-saving product, entering or expanding a healing practice, developing or joining a world-wide service organization, or volunteering in a local service organization. In any case, your circle of friends and associates widens during this cycle.
In the 11 pinnacle you are inspired to go beyond conventional limits. Independence, excitement, and innovation are featured. It’s a period of high energy. Activities can be focused on the physical or spiritual realms. On the physical plane, electrical innovations in science and engineering, or air-related activities such as aviation or weather could be featured; spiritually, metaphysical studies and teaching, psychic reading, positive psychology, or spiritual psychology might be the focus. Whatever the focus, the emphasis is on inspiration and new approaches.
While the 11 pinnacle focuses on the dream, the 22 pinnacle creates practical ways to make the dream come true. This is a time of building and accomplishment on a large scale. This period can also involve international diplomacy, depending on the numbers of your core qualities. You might be working on a project in your home town that affects other countries. Or you could become a world traveler as a diplomat, or providing basic services to third-world cultures.
The 33 pinnacle is a period of communication on a large scale. You might have opportunities to work in national or international media, you may enter politics, or you may be the one in your neighborhood whom everyone comes to for comfort, solace, and good entertainment. The emphasis is on nurturing, which could also manifest in activities such as any of the arts, performing, or the healing arts.
Your pinnacles provide a picture of your past, present, and future. The benefit of looking at your past gives you the opportunity to learn from it and to consciously bring its strength into the present with you. Of course, your present moment is the most important one in your life. And the ability to see your future gives you the opportunity to prepare for it.
Your opportunity, should you decide to accept it, is to enjoy the ride. Your cycles benefit you if you act within them. Think of pinnacles as recipes. All the ingredients are present, but you have to put them together and cook them to get the desired result.
I found this exciting article on Facebook through Dr. Jeff Mullan. Dramatic new evidence revealed by Russian scientists says that we are hardwired for intuition/psychic ability/extra-sensory perception. It is a long article, but a fascinating read.
Anger is a good thing. It is the alarm bell within that tells you something is wrong. Anger ‘s role in life is to help us maintain and protect our selfness. It tells us that someone or something is encroaching on our boundaries. The trick with anger is to know how to use it for your benefit.
I think of anger as my friend. It has not always been so. From petty annoyances to temper tantrums, I know the full range of the anger spectrum. I was the Rage Queen, erupting as the overwhelming tide of anger swept me away, out of control, feeling powerless and vulnerable.
I used to think it was someone or something else that made me angry, unaware that the anger was about me. I played the blame game to the hilt, repeating the same patterns over and over until the awareness of how bad anger felt made me seek help.
I have had wonderful teachers, mentors, and loved ones who have taught me so much about anger. They have been mirrors for me, examples to emulate, and compassionate healers.
It wasn’t easy to face the emotions that were holding me in anger. Gradually I was able to develop the compassion and self respect that enabled me to look inside with love and appreciation, and I was able to take the steps toward healing.
I learned that my anger is a sign that something inside me is out of balance. As I learned to admit how sad I felt, how helpless, how hurt, I realized my anger was a shield I used to hide my vulnerability from myself and from the world.
Resolution of anger issues is different from anger management. Anger management strategies are certainly important; still, they don’t seem to create resolution of the issue(s) that bring anger out. They seem to focus on control, which is constructive but, without resolution, tend to encourage emotional repression, which creates more anger, which leads to more repression, and the circle goes around and around.
Here are a couple of definitions of anger management, one by the Mayo Clinic staff, along with ten great tips for handling anger that everyone can use (I encourage you to read it), and this one by Normal Shultz, Research Assistant, Conflict Research Consortium at the University of Colorado. What is your opinion?
Anger is a normal part of life. Learning to resolve it enables you to have better health, better relationships, and more of what you want. By using anger management and resolution together, you can gradually whittle your anger down to nothing. How would that change your life?
While I experience annoyance and irritation from time to time, I am no longer the Rage Queen. I use anger management strategies, and I take steps to resolve the issues behind the anger by asking myself questions like, “What is it in me that brings this forward? What am I telling myself right now?” I am happier, and so are those around me.
What are your thoughts about this? What is your experience with anger? How do you handle it?