Monthly Archives: January 2012

Psychic Development

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As you know, I talk a lot about human potential. For years I taught people how to develop their in-born psychic abilities and use them in practical ways in everyday life. The main focus of my book and this blog is to help demystify the psychic and spiritual parts of our nature so we can learn to use these gifts we were born with to help ourselves and others live their best lives.

Today I want to share with you an article written by Dr. Jill Ammon-Wexler about the power of your mind. Dr. Jill and I share the belief that psychic ability is a normal part of human nature and can be developed to help us improve our quality of life.

Here is a quote from Albert Einstein that you will find if you click on the related article link, “Intuition – An Intuitive’s View” where I found it. I agree with him.

“The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.”

Read Dr. Jill’s article and let me know what you think.

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Candid Camera

 

Some funny videos for you today. “Insert hyperllaugh out loudink” wasn’t working, so click on the link http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=19a73pvyfsI.

I try to keep it clean, but there are crude comments about some of these videos. Anyway, the videos are funny, and you don’t have to read the comments if you don’t want to.

Enjoy, and have a great weekend!

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The Death Penalty

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A few days ago I was reading a blog about the death penalty. There were lots of comments. I used to be in favor of the death penalty, as in “an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth,” partly because I had some excess anger in my nature and partly because I learned it from the Christian religion. Essentially, it’s about retribution; if you do something bad, you deserve to be treated badly in return.

When I discovered reincarnation, I saw reaping what you sow (karma) kind of that way, as well. Some people see karma as retribution and some as a natural outcome of behavior, more like  “garbage in, garbage out,” in computer speak, which involves no judgment – just facts.

I have some questions about karma. For instance, when someone murders another person, what is the murderer’s karma? Does the murderer eventually have to be murdered by the person he murdered in order to pay his karmic debt? Or is the debt paid if he is murdered by just anyone? Is there another way he can pay?

Is the victim paying a karmic debt by being murdered? What if the victim murdered the murderer in another lifetime? Does the second murder cancel the karma between them? I don’t know, and even if I did, I don’t know whether I’d believe it or not. That’s a subject for another blog. Hm.

If karma means you get what you give, what about the genocide in Africa? Do the murderers become victims of genocide in a future lifetime? In the 1994 Rwandan genocide, forgiveness has brought peace to some survivors.

Forgiveness is the opposite of retribution. It creates healing. Forgiveness is not approval; it’s about starting over. Without forgiveness, brutality would never stop. I don’t know whether I could turn the other cheek, as Jesus taught, if someone physically hurt me. That would be hard. It might be easier to forgive the person after I hurt him back.

It seems forgiveness is the way to go if you want inner peace – or not, if you want revenge. I guess it depends on what you want.

In “The Magical Child” by Joseph Chilton Pearce, there is the true story of a young woman who was attacked in New York City by two thugs who hijacked her car at a traffic light and drove to an isolated location with the intent to rape and rob her. Instead of reacting in panic, she found herself attempting to comfort her attackers.

After the incident, she said she could feel their fear and was overwhelmed with compassion for them. As she was about to be raped, she embraced the man and said to him, “Everything’s okay. You don’t have to do this. You can have my car and my money. Don’t be afraid.” As she continued to comfort her attackers, they began to cry and told her they were sorry. Eventually, they dropped her off at a subway stop and she went on her way, unharmed, never reporting her ordeal to the police.

Was it because their violence was met with compassion – without judgment, without fear, that this woman was spared? Was it karma? It’s clear that she touched them deeply.

The upshot for me is, now I don’t know whether I believe in the death penalty or not. By sentencing someone to death, are we facilitating his/her karma? Or are we creating karma for ourselves?

More questions than answers. Any thoughts?

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We Are On Purpose!

Alyse Bingham, an enterprising author and blogger, interviewed me the other day, and I am excited to share the interview with you – my first online. To learn more about this Wonder Woman of writing, click on the We Write Worlds button on the right. We are on purpose!

Author Interview with Nancy Fairbrother

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1. Why do you write?
I write because I want to help people discover the hidden talents they possess so they can live their best life. I find that the way to live your best life is to be true to yourself by being who you are and doing what fulfills you.
2. How many books have you written?
I’ve written one book, “You Were Born to Succeed: Finding Your Purpose through Numerology.”
3. What inspired you to write your (latest) book?
I’m a retired psychotherapist and a fulltime mystic. In my practice, my greatest desire was to help guide my clients on the path of their life purpose. I discovered my own life purpose through Chaldean numerology, and I wanted to share my experience with others. I realize numerology is not for everyone and is not the only way to discover your life purpose. There are many processes people can practice to discover their life purpose. Most of these processes take weeks, months, or years to complete. I know because I’ve tried some of them. When I discovered Chaldean numerology, I was impressed with how quickly and easily my life plan was laid out for me, and with the way it fit me to a “T.” I was able to work it out in a couple of hours, and I knew others would be as thrilled and impressed as I was. My Chaldean Soul Chart guides me to this day. I also want to show people that ancient sciences like numerology and astrology are powerful, practical, twenty-first-century tools that can help people improve their lives.
4. What is your favorite genre to read?
I love biographies. It’s inspiring to read stories of how people overcome obstacles to achieve their dreams. I’m also fascinated with the way people think and what makes them tick. I’m doing a research project now to find out if people in certain groups might have numbers in common, such as artists, entertainers, geniuses, etc. If so, numerology might be a way to detect these traits early in someone’s life and help guide them to fulfill their purpose from a young age. In the case of serial killers, sociopaths, people who suffer from depression, schizophrenia, etc., numerology may be a way to detect these traits early and help heal them before they result in chaos for themselves and others.
5. Is your writing style at all influenced by those of your favorite authors?
I wish I could write like my favorite authors. I haven’t been writing for very long. My book and my blog are the extent of my writing so far. I’m still learning, and life has been moving so fast for me I haven’t put the time into studying writing styles that I could. I belong to a couple of writing groups and have learned a lot through them and am learning a lot on the Internet, too.
6. Which is your favorite book that you’ve written?
My one and only book.
7. What is your opinion of the art of writing?
Good writing is certainly an art. When words flow like water across the page, juxtaposed and combined in just the right way to express with absolute clarity the essence of an experience or a feeling, that is artful writing.
8. What advice would you give someone who is just beginning their own novel?
You’ve heard this before. Sit down at your keyboard or your writing pad and write. Don’t edit yourself – just let it flow. If your mind is blank, make something up til the words start flowing. Sooner or later ideas and structure will emerge, and you’ll have something to build on.
9. Do you have any funny and / or interesting stories about how you’ve come up with plots or characters?
Being a non-fiction writer, there are no plots or characters to create, obviously. My intention is to write  about my experiences and the concepts I want to share in such a way that my readers can identify with them. I’ve learned when I have trouble expressing myself it means I’m not writing about what I need to be writing about, or I’m in my head instead of my heart, or I’m making writing a hard job instead of enjoying the process. So I tune into my spiritual guides and they help me get clear. And sometimes my guides do the writing and I take dictation. I like that a lot.
10. Coke or Pepsi?
I used to love Classic Coke. Then I loved the original Pepsi. Now I love coffee.
You can find Nancy’s book available for Kindle, Nook, and on Smashwords. Be sure to visit her blog!

How to Solve Problems Without Fighting

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I have a fiery emotional nature, so I tend to blow up instantly when I am angry. Fortunately, I don’t get angry often any more because I’ve put a lot of dedication into resolving my anger issues. And I mean fortunately for myself as well as others, because I used to feel terrible after an angry outburst; guilty because I made the other person feel bad, and sad because I was still angry.

I’m going to share something about fighting that I learned in grad school. It’s so simple, I wondered why I hadn’t figured it out myself – but that’s what school is for. This technique alone was worth the money I spent for my education.

Even though the process is simple it’s not so easy, because you have to let go of your ego to make it work. So here goes.

There are three steps to successful outcomes with touchy subjects:

1. Diffuse your anger

2. Talk calmly about the situation

3. Talk about yourself, not the other person.

In my experience, there are two scenarios in which an argument can occur. One is in the moment when an irritating incident occurs and the other is some time after the  incident, in which case anger has been simmering on the back burner for a while.

If you get angry in the moment, tell the other person you need to leave and will talk about this later. Then do something to diffuse your anger. If you’re angry about something that happened in the past, tell the person you’d like to talk. Make sure you are feeling calm.

For example, say your husband leaves his towels on the bathroom floor every time he takes a shower. You have spoken to him about this before (probably not so nicely) and you are angry about it.

The first thing to do is dissipate your anger energy. Screaming into your pillow, going for a run or to the gym, beating up your mattress, breathing deeply, or counting to 100 are all effective techniques. Just say nothing to your husband until the rage is gone. Then calmly state that you would like to talk to him about something and ask if this is a good time.

If it’s not a good time for him, set a time that will work for both of you. Wait respectfully until the appointment. No pouting, etc. At the appropriate time, tell him what you want to talk about. Calmly let him know how you feel when you find towels on the bathroom floor. For example, maybe you do your best to keep the house tidy and, when you trip over towels in the bathroom, you feel defeated, or like no one cares, or unappreciated. Whatever is true for you.

Do not accuse him. The basic language is, “When you do/say this, it makes me feel this way.” Now you are talking about yourself. It neutralizes the fight-or-flight energy of anger and opens up space for discussion. And it puts you in the driver’s seat in your own life when you are authentic about your feelings. You don’t have to resort to drama (pouting, yelling, shutting down, etc.) to make yourself heard.

I remember practicing this with a lovely man I was living with. I was really frustrated with him, but I didn’t want to be the old me and attack him. I decided to take responsibility for myself and try to work out some way we could both be winners.

He was remodeling the kitchen, and we had been without a sink for weeks. We washed dishes in the laundry room, and I used the kitchen table for preparing meals (no kitchen counter, either). I had asked him many times when he thought we could get a sink, and his answer was always about having the time.

At the end of my rope one day, I asked him again. Same old answer. I had been thinking about this for a long time, and I had a solution. I told him I had decided to do something about this that I could control; something to keep myself from going crazy. I could see that he was getting ready for a confrontation. Instead, I calmly said, “I’m not going to cook any more. We can eat sandwiches; it will be easier.”

The next weekend we bought a kitchen sink. He had it installed within days, including the new kitchen counter.

It felt so good to let go of anger and be myself throughout this process. And it opened up more space for loving in our relationship. When you are genuine, the other person is more likely to be genuine, as well. Anger makes people feel threatened, and they automatically take a defensive stand when confronted.

What if the other person doesn’t want to discuss the matter, but resorts to their own anger drama instead? Stay calm and end the conversation in a civil manner, such as, “I hoped we could talk about this. Maybe another time.” If you feel angry, take the time to dissipate the energy and let the incident go.

The key is that you are taking charge of your life by changing the only person you can – yourself. The other person may eventually take a cue from you and decide to open up. You can’t change anyone, but it only takes one person to create a safe space for change.

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Past Lives

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Reincarnation and Parallel Lives

According to the research I’ve done, about 24% of Americans believe in reincarnation, and some say that belief is on the increase. We all know that reincarnation is a foundational belief in some religions and is seen as the work of the devil in others.

Then there is the idea of parallel lives, in which we could be living multiple lives at the same time. There is no way to prove that we have lived before or are living multiple lives at once. We only know our own experience for sure.

I am biased toward belief in reincarnation because it’s easier for me to understand past lives than parallel lives. So I’m calling it past-life recall because of that and because it seems like an appropriate term to apply to my experiences.

Practical Application

My first past-life experience convinced me that this was an excellent method to use in my counseling practice. I can’t say enough about its effectiveness as a way to resolve anxiety, fear, anger, grief, self-judgment, and obsessiveness. I never had a client who did not experience healing with this process.

Two other things I like about past-life regression are that the process is quick and the results are lasting. In a matter of an hour or so, you can be healed of emotional trauma forever. An important advantage of it is that the person doesn’t have to experience the full impact of the trauma they went through originally.

My Personal Experience

If you are familiar with past-life recall, you know that some people remember vividly every detail of their former experience; the country in which it took place, the year in history, and the setting (see related article about Shanti Devi). A few even speak in the language they spoke at the time. In my case, I remember my experiences clearly, but sometimes I can’t see the faces of other people there. For me, the historical and visual details are generalized but the feelings are sharp and clear.

My first past-life recall occurred after touring a plantation in Georgia. It was a beautiful place and I felt very peaceful there. Some time later I was thinking about the experience and wondering why it felt so peaceful and comforting, since slavery was practiced there. Then I began to see in my mind a black woman in a beautiful, big white house and I found myself watching a kind of movie unfold.

I saw myself as a skinny, plain-faced black girl of about 11 or 12, tall for my age, and I knew I was this woman’s daughter. We worked in the house; it was a serene environment in spite of the circumstances. I got the feeling I had been a sheltered child, ignorant of the violent repression of blacks by whites.

One of my duties involved solemn and utter secrecy. I took it seriously that what I was doing was very important and was never to be revealed to the white people we worked for or discussed among the workers. I’m not sure I even knew we were slaves.

My secret job was to row a boat to a certain location in a swampy area. The location was sheltered by  tree branches hanging over the water, and there were trees and reeds growing out of it. I would meet someone there in a boat, along with a passenger, a black person. I would take the passenger back to the house in my boat. The grownups would take over from there, and I would never see the passenger again. I knew from experience not to ask questions.

As I watched and felt this experience unfold in my mind, I knew that I had been unknowingly participating in the Underground Railroad.

My last trip was to bring about the end of my life. I arrived at the meeting place early, so I had to wait for my contact. After a while, I saw two white teen-age boys approaching  in a rowboat. They were laughing and talking as I watched them from the reeds. I was not alarmed, thinking they would pass by when they saw me. That’s not what happened.

They began taunting me as soon as they spotted me. When they got close, they started rocking my boat and then tipped it over. As I surfaced, they pushed me under repeatedly until I drowned. I don’t remember what emotions I was feeling at the time. I may have been paralyzed with fear and astonishment.

What My Experience Meant in My Present Life

I grew up in Massachusetts with water everywhere – the beach, the town river, and ponds and lakes nearby. Naturally, one of the main activities in my childhood was swimming with my sister and our friends in the summer. My father taught us to swim, and we took swimming lessons at camp.

At around age 10 or 11, I became deathly afraid of deep water even though I was a good swimmer. I couldn’t bear to be touched while I was swimming. As I swam with my friends, I was afraid to admit that I was scared of the water, so I hid my fear as my heart beat like a hammer every time I swam out over my head. I carried this fear into adulthood until I experienced the lifetime of the slave girl. I have been free of that fear ever since.

Past-Life Regression in Psychotherapy

Millions of people have experienced healing by recalling other lifetimes. Simply recalling a past-life experience is enough to heal an emotional trauma forever. Extensive discussion is not necessary. I have found that the experience itself brings the understanding necessary to create resolution.

Hypnosis used to be the only way to achieve past-life recall in Western psychotherapy. Now, guided meditation is used, as well.

Back in the day, few psychotherapists used past-life regression, and those who did would not admit it publicly. But dogma in the medical profession is gradually relaxing, and more therapists are embracing it. Dr. Brian L. Weiss is one of the pioneers in the field and has written several fascinating books about using past-life regression in his psychotherapy practice.

Past-life recall has helped people understand present-day relationships, forgive and be forgiven, heal fear and anger, and gain a deeper understanding of their spiritual nature. It is exciting and inspiring to me that this process is becoming available to more and more people who can be freed of emotional burdens they have been carrying for lifetimes.

The Eternal Spirit

In my view, past-life regression is about the soul. It’s not about the brain and it’s not about being rational, yet it is a most profound and effective way to heal emotional trauma. It shows that we carry memories through lifetimes from one body to the next within the eternal, invisible energy that is our spiritual essence.

We can’t prove that past lives exist, but it doesn’t matter. We can trust what our gut tells us. And for some, there is no doubt.

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The Old Mouse Trick – An Engineering Practical Joke

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You will laugh at this, especially if you are a geek or a nerd. But if you are, you probably already know this trick. Click on the link anyway, because other geeks/nerds share their practical jokes, too, and you may get some good ammunition.

Is there a difference between geeks and nerds? I found the answer to this question while posting this blog.  See for yourself. But I couldn’t figure out which term applies to the engineers in our story. Anyone have any ideas?

Go nerds (geeks?).

P.S. You will get a kick out of the related article at the bottom.

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TED – Who Knew?

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For years, I have been not watching or reading the network news because it is always bad news – never good news. I know, you could call it burying my head in the sand, and you might be right – but I got fed up with all the sensationalism, strife, and negativity. I have learned over many years that whatever you think about comes about, and I’ve been learning to think about what I want, not what I don’t want. It works.

Lately I have been glancing over the headlines online to see what’s happening, with the thought that there may be something I am willing to explore. Today I was rewarded.

I found TED (Technology, Entertainment, Design), the non-profit that created a community of independent, revolutionary, and inspirational thinkers to share their ideas with the world. I stumbled across it through a headline on Fox news, to wit, “Al Gore Rethinks Climate Change,” and watched his passionate, 18-minute talk. It turns out that these 18 minutes are offered as a chance to give “the talk of your life,” as I learned on the TED website, http://www.ted.com/pages/about.  Wow. What a concept!

I may be the only one who didn’t know about TED, but just in case I’m not, I invite you to check it out. It’s not about agreeing or disagreeing with anyone or anything. It’s about exploration and, for me, inspiration (having the Direction number of 11 as I do). We, me included, need all the support we can get to think positively and find hope and possibility in seemingly-impossible situations. TED is that support, a rare find in the media.

I love TED.

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How to Find the Perfect Job

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Do Be Do Be Do or Be Do Be Do Be?

Do you judge yourself as successful? Most people judge success by outer standards; for example, how much money they make. If they have a job they judge as “good” and they’re meeting their income goals, they judge themselves as successful. Inwardly, they may be sick and tired, they may be compromising their values, their relationships may be hanging by a thread, but they are “successful.”

Conversely, if people judge themselves as lacking with respect to job and income, they often see themselves as unsuccessful, no matter how happy they may be in other areas of life.

In Western culture, especially in the U.S., we are obsessed with the idea of doing – accomplishing goals, making more money, having better things. While there is nothing wrong with that, making it our first priority is leading us away from our purpose in life; to be fulfilled.

I know of a father who preached to his young children that they should aim for a certain profession because they would make more money in it than in any other. He said nothing about inner satisfaction or following their passion. If they followed his advice, they may be among the overworked, stressed-out, “successful” millions who are living someone else’s values, not their own.

Job/career and life seem to be two separate entities for many people. Do you feel split in two? Are you one person on the job and another at home? Who is the real you?

Your perfect job is the one that is the reflection of who you are inside, giving you fulfillment and satisfaction according to your real interests and passion. Inward success creates real (not false) outward success.

Try Changing Your Focus

Think of yourself as a spiritual being having a physical experience. In this paradigm, you see that spirit is first and physical follows. When you follow your spirit, you know who you are and what you are doing here. In other words, to get that brilliant job, find your life purpose. When you discover your purpose, you are fulfilled by expressing who you are in all the facets of your life, including your career. When you follow your purpose, your life automatically lines up with who you are and begins to flow smoothly.

Use Many Resources to Find Your Purpose

There are many good ways to find your life purpose. I just Googled “how to find life purpose” and found pages and pages of links. There are books, DVDs, CDs, seminars, career coaches, and web sites, including this blog, all dedicated to helping you find your purpose.

All you need to do is to get out of the way and let your heart take over. Click on any link, explore every resource that attracts you. Try different exercises. It takes dedication and persistence. When tears are running down your cheeks, you’ll know you’re home.

One More Resource

I have used several good resources and exercises to help me find my life purpose. But I didn’t get that heart-felt response until I found a small book by W. Mykian that showed me how to find my purpose by using Chaldean numerology. This special type of numerology helped me discover my purpose in a matter of hours.

When I calculated my numbers, all the pieces of the jigsaw puzzle that was my life suddenly came together and presented me with a clear illustration of my entire life plan, including directions for how to live it. I laughed, I cried, and I heaved a huge sigh of relief. I ‘d been searching for a long time.

Numerology Works for Everyone

It was easy for me to accept numerology as a valid tool for personal growth, since I am a born mystic, but it may not be easy for you. Perhaps you think numerology is nothing but hocus-pocus or airy-fairy new-age feel-good fluff. But numerology is really an ancient science of  the spirit – the unseen. Maybe you don’t believe you are spirit or that you have a purpose in life. But it doesn’t matter whether you believe or not. It will work for you.

If you are “successful” but feel there is something missing in your life, it’s a sign you are searching for your purpose. If you regret that you’ve never reached your full potential, it’s a sign you are looking for your purpose. If you are frustrated by a lack of direction, it’s a sign you are seeking your specific path in life. If you are one of the many millions who hate their jobs, it’s a sign you are looking for your life purpose.

Numerology is quick and easy to do and is a life-long guide. I use my Chaldean Soul Chart to help me remember who I am and where I’m going. It helps me focus on my strengths and use my power to resolve challenges, strengthen my relationships, stay healthy, and prepare for the future.

Use every opportunity in service to your personal growth. Open your mind to numerology so your heart can tell you whether or not it is right for you. Find out more about my book by clicking on the Select Authors image.

Live your purpose every day.