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You Were Born That Way

This was the original title of my book until someone suggested it might be interpreted in a way I hadn’t intended. For instance, some people might

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think the book was about the things they didn’t like about themselves or that it could be an excuse for some people to act like jerks. So I changed the title to “You Were Born to Succeed.”

And you were also born that way – that is, with certain characteristics and qualities that make you unique. If you were a computer, it would mean that all your programs had been automatically installed before birth. And they would all be up and running from the minute you came out of the womb. Some of your programs wouldn’t be evident until you reached a certain age, but they would be there nonetheless.

Your programs, installed some time after conception and before birth, would consist of all your spiritual knowledge and wisdom in addition to all the information needed to build your physical body. Unlike a computer, your programs would grow and develop with experience. As a newborn, you knew who you were, where you came from, and where you were going. Following the rules of the game on earth, you forgot all this a short time after you took your first breath.

But the information is still there, and easily accessible if you choose to uncover it, in the letters and numbers of your birth name and birth date. If you are one of the few who have learned to live in your heart and trust your instincts, you don’t need this information. For you, it’s backup in case you lose your way, since you are automatically following your life purpose. If you are not one of these few, you may want to look yourself up in your own personal book of life by learning to use Chaldean numerology through my book (click on the Select Authors image) or by contacting me, and I will open the book for you.

My wish is that everyone on earth lives a successful life by following their purpose. My intention is to help as many people as I can to accomplish it.

Live your purpose every day.


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You may have noticed that this is the only post I have published this week (and barely under the Friday wire, at that). It is because I am now working part-time and getting ready for Christmas as well, which has cut severely into my writing time. So it is safe to say that I will probably not be keeping up with my blogging schedule until some time after the first of the year. However, I will endeavor to post a Friday Funnies article each week, no matter what. Thanks for your understanding.

And now, a couple of silly Christmas songs you can sing as you are finishing your Christmas shopping. Go ahead – it’s OK.

(Sung to the tune “Deck the Halls”)

Deck the malls this Christmas season,

fa la la la la, la la la la

Blow your cash for no good reason,

fa la la la la, la la la la

Push your charge card to its limit

fa la la, la la la, la la la

Your check book now has nothing in it.

fa la la la la, la la la la.

(Sung to the tune “Jingle Bells”)

Dashing through the snow in my rusty Chevrolet.

Down the road I go, sliding all the way.

I need new piston rings.  I need some new snow tires.

My car is held together by a piece of chicken wire!

Oh, rust and smoke, the heater’s broke, the door just blew away.

I light a match to see the dash and then I start to pray-ay.

The frame is bent, the muffler went, the radio’s okay.

Oh, what fun it is to drive this rusty Chevrolet!

I went to IGA to get some Christmas cheer.

I just passed up my left front tire and it’s gettin’ hard to steer.

Speeding down the highway, right past the county cops.

I have to drag my swampers just to get the car to stop.

Oh, rust and smoke, the heater’s broke, the door just blew away.

I light a match to see the dash and then I start to pray-ay.

The frame is bent, the muffler went, the radio’s okay.

Oh, what fun it is to drive this rusty Chevrolet!

Bouncing through the snowdrifts in a big, blue cloud of smoke.

People laugh as I drive by; I wonder what’s the joke!

I have to get to Wal-Mart to pick up my layaway,

Cause Santa’s comin’ soon in his big, old, rusty sleigh!

Oh, rust and smoke, the heater’s broke, the door just blew away.

I light a match to see the dash and then I start to pray-ay.

The frame is bent, the muffler went, the radio’s okay.

Oh, what fun it is to drive this rusttttttttty Chevroooooooleeeeeet!

Lifted from http://funny-stuff-central.com/cmas.php

As I haven’t figured out how to reproduce these funny cartoons, I invite you to visit the site below for a humorous look at a very determined cat.


I hope you have enjoyed today’s Friday Funnies.

Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays, and Happy New Year to you!

Live your purpose every day.

Your Outer Self – How You Live Your Life

As with your Inner Self (see blog post, “Your Inner Self – The Engine that Drives You”), whether you are aware of it or not, you are always trying to express your spiritual self. It is everyone’s automatic response to life.

Your Outer Self is another of your five core qualities. It represents the way people see you, your personality, and lifestyle.

If you are feeling frustrated with life or if somehow things are not working out as you wish, chances are you are allowing outside circumstances to override your deeper spiritual self. It is always harder to resist your inner promptings than to go with the flow of your purpose.

Your Outer Self number is found in the consonants of your birth name. To calculate your Outer Self number, you will need to use the Chaldean Conversion Code below.

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How to Calculate Your Outer Self Number

Print your birth name on a piece of paper. Be sure you are using the name on your birth certificate, even if it is spelled incorrectly. Next, place the number that corresponds to each consonant above that consonant in your name. Add all the numbers above the consonants in your first name together and write the sum above those numbers.

Now reduce that sum to a single digit, if necessary, (for example, 13 becomes 4) and write it above the first sum. Do the same thing with your middle and last names. If you have a suffix like Junior or III after your name, calculate that in the same way. Spell out Junior.

Finally, add all the single-digit sums above each name together and reduce that sum to a single digit unless it is 11, 22, or 33, which are master numbers. Now you have your Outer Self number.

Brief Interpretations of your Outer Self Number

Each number has its positive and negative qualities, and both are represented in the interpretations. When you are expressing the negative qualities of your number, it means you are confused. Using the positive qualities can help you get back in balance.

1          You are independent, capable, courageous, daring, creative, forceful, assertive, a person of action. People look to you for leadership. You can be selfish, pushy, impatient, and domineering.

2          You are warm, friendly, willing to help, able to get along with all kinds of people, can fit in anywhere. You instill cooperation in others. You can be indecisive, painfully shy, and needy.

3.         People see you as outgoing, cheerful, and expressive, a talker, active, determined, sociable, and popular. You seem to have no worries. You can be a scatterbrain, disorganized, and ineffective by spreading yourself too thin.

4          You are seen as disciplined, organized, dependable, practical, conservative, thorough, a hard worker. People respect you because they can count on you. Your presence reassures others. You can be narrow-minded, stubborn, inflexible, nervous, close-minded, and difficult to work with.

5          People see you as outgoing, sociable, cheerful, enthusiastic, an adventurer, risk-taker, dynamic, magnetic, attractive, gracious, and carefree. You are the life of the party. You can be seen as loud, boastful, startling, bizarre, and irresponsible.

6          People like to be around you because you project a sense of serenity and harmony. You are outgoing and friendly in a dignified way, even at a party. You make people feel welcome wherever you are. People come to you for advice. You can be a worrier, interfering, overbearing, self righteous, and careless about your appearance and that of your environment.

7          People find you gracious and friendly in a quiet way. You can be reserved and aloof, as well. No matter how engaged you are, you project an impression that you know something no one else does. You can be exclusive, snobbish, judgmental, secretive, and elusive. No one can pin you down.

8          People see you as dynamic, energetic, friendly, persuasive, in charge. You emanate personal power, strength, and success. You automatically assume leadership. You can be abusive, dictatorial, impatient, scornful of others, and boastful about your possessions.

9          You are seen as sincere, friendly, outgoing, enthusiastic, strong, charming, compassionate, and having a magnetic personality. People are drawn to you because they sense you care about them. You can be overly emotional, becoming involved in everyone’s problems because you feel you are responsible for fixing them. You can be irresponsible, indecisive, and ineffective.

11        Others are inspired by you and see you as original, having avant garde opinions, artistic, creative, humanitarian, unique, inventive, idealistic, a dreamer. People are drawn to you and are fascinated by your message.

You can be egotistical, shallow, uninterested in the opinions of others, and an impractical dreamer with your head in the clouds, accomplishing nothing.

22        People see you as a powerful, practical humanitarian who can make dreams come true. Whatever your skills and expertise, you use them to help others and make the world a better place. People trust you and have confidence that you have the highest interests at heart. You can be snobbish and inflexible.

33        People see you as the ultimate giver. You are outgoing, entertaining, dramatic, a lover of children and animals. People are attracted to you because they can feel your kindness, generosity, and genuine caring. You tend to take on the problems of others rather than helping them solve their own. You sacrifice yourself because you don’t understand the difference between being a servant and being of service.

You Are Love

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There is a part of you that loves everything and everyone. It even loves you – unconditionally. I call it your loving essence, and it is expressed through your unique personality, talents, and life purpose.

Your loving essence is often lost through programmed thinking and behavior, much of which is negative and stress-producing. If you look deep inside, you will find the loving essence that is there in every minute of every day.

When you are able to see through your programmed reactions to life, you discover your true self which is all loving, all the time. This doesn’t mean you are sweetness and light all the time. It means you are able to accept yourself just as you are. You can see your so-called imperfections and love yourself anyway. You experience that place inside that loves life, that is enthusiastic about everything, as you were when you were a child.

Your loving essence needs guidance, since it is all feelings. It needs your thoughts to direct it to full expression. Your loving essence is all power and energy, and contains the feelings that nudge you to the best expression of yourself. It is your inner world. Your thoughts give it direction and outer-world expression.

Wouldn’t it be great if we all could live in perfect balance between our loving essence and the outer expression of it? Maybe some day humankind can achieve that balance. Meanwhile, we can do our best to remember who we are and honor who we are; maybe only for a fleeting second or a few minutes in our day. But with practice, we can make it a habit, then a way of life.

Imagine living a life of honor; honoring who you are, just as you are. As you honor yourself, you honor others. As you do what is necessary to create a life of inner and outer fulfillment, you create an environment for your loved ones to do the same. You are a way-shower.

One way to begin is to make it a habit of remembering who you are. Think about these questions and try keeping them in the back of your mind; “What if I could love every minute of my life? What would that look like? What would that feel like?”

Your Chaldean Soul Chart, as illustrated in my book, You Were Born to Succeed: Finding Your Purpose through Numerology, can help you create a life you could love. If you are a person who is not sure of why you are here, your Chaldean Soul Chart can show you.

In my book, you can learn to find your purpose by calculating, in a unique and specific way, the numbers of your birth name and birth date. Automatically, you will identify with your chart because the information you uncover has been in the energy pattern of your soul since you were born.

Your inborn loving essence automatically comes forward when you access this information. Your loving essence is the propulsion system of your life purpose. If you stay in touch with your purpose, you can create a life worth loving.

Live your purpose every day.

Your Life Purpose Number

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Your Life Purpose number appears at the top of your Chaldean Soul Chart. It shows you the main thrust of your life. Your Life Purpose number is like an overlay that influences all the other numbers in your chart. Its vibration permeates every part of your life. It is the main contributor to your personality type, it reflects the deep longings of your soul, and it is the spontaneous and automatic expression of yourSelf. You automatically express the qualities of this number in everything you do.

Your Life Purpose number is derived from all the letters of the name that appears on your birth certificate. Whether it is spelled correctly or not, this is the name you use to calculate your Life Purpose number.

The interpretation of your Life Purpose number must include the influences of the other numbers in the Core Qualities section of your Chaldean Soul Chart. Each number has its own influence, and all the numbers combine in the unique vibration that is you. It’s like a soup. Even though you can taste the individual ingredients, the combination of those ingredients makes the overall flavor of the soup.

Some people have the ability to trust their intuition and follow their purpose from the day they are born. They are usually supported in this by family, friends, and other influences. These are the people, like Steve Jobs, who always seem to be in the right place at the right time, who are passionate about their focus in life, and who always accomplish their goals. They work hard, they love what they do, and when they meet with a challenge, they never waiver in their purpose. They never give up.

Many people lack this level of focus. Perhaps they lack the self trust to follow their intuition, to listen to their feelings. Perhaps they lack the support they need to ignite the fire of fulfillment. Perhaps part of their purpose is to find their way without much outside help. Perhaps it has never occurred to them that they have a specific purpose in life.

These are the people who can benefit from learning to calculate and interpret their Chaldean Soul Chart. If your experience is more like this, your chart can give you the sense of direction and possibility you are looking for. Your chart confirms what you already know and crystallizes your inner knowing into a clear and simple form you can understand. It’s the how-to book from your soul.

If you are searching for something more in life, I invite you to get my book and give numerology a try. If you are searching for a way to help your children become the best they can be, calculate their Chaldean Soul Charts and create an environment that will support their life purpose. Imagine what life would be like if everyone in your family were acting in support of their own and everyone else’s purpose. Imagine how numerology could help each one understand the other.

Click the Select Authors image on the right and sample my book, “You Were Born to Succeed: Finding Your Purpose through Numerology.” I would love to hear from those of you who buy it and use it. Let me know what your experience is by emailing me at borntosucceed.go@gmail.com or by commenting on this post.

Live your purpose every day.

9 Ways to Handle Your Anger

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Being an ex-Rage Queen, I have learned many ways to handle anger when it arises. I thought it would be helpful if I shared them with you, just in case you should ever become angry. Heh-heh.

1.         Own your anger. Take responsibility for it. Understand that, even if your feelings are justified, your aggressive, snide, abusive, or sarcastic reaction is not.

2.         Forgive yourself. Recognize that your anger is bringing forward some of the most valuable lessons you will ever learn, and you have an opportunity to earn your “A”. You can  grade yourself if you want to. Don’t kick yourself if you get an “F”. Just keep plugging for the “A”.

3.         If you must, hit something – not someone. Sometimes people need to channel  anger energy aggressively. Hit your mattress, pillows, or a punching bag.

4.         Instead of yelling at the object of your anger, scream into a pillow until your anger subsides.

5.         Take ten deep breaths before reacting. Here’s a special technique you can use. Inhale deeply into the bottom of your lungs either through your mouth or your nose. Your stomach will rise and you will feel the air filling your lungs all the way to the top. Do not hold your breath or control your exhale or push the air out. Let your breath out naturally. It will come out almost like a sigh. Without a pause, inhale again. This is called circular breathing, and it heals physically, mentally, and emotionally.

If you are doing this breath through your mouth, don’t take more than ten breaths. This is a therapeutic breath, and you might start activating deeper emotions which, in itself, is a good thing. But you would want a professional Transformational Breath facilitator to guide you through to resolution. Breathing in and out through the nose does not cause activation, and you can use this same process breathing normally whenever you are stressed.

6.         Do something physical; go for a walk, work out, ride your bike, clean your house. You get the picture.

7.         Cry till it doesn’t hurt any more.

8.         Sing the blues – literally. Make up the words and the tune or sing your favorite blues song. Vocalizing gets the energy out.

9.         Replay. If you lose control, apologize for that and leave the area. Then visualize yourself handling the situation calmly so that your needs are met. You can do this for past occurrences, as well. Practice makes perfect.

Obviously, you will do these before you react to the object of your anger. There is no rule that says you have to immediately handle what just happened. Leave the area and take care of yourself first. After you have diffused the energy, you can speak your mind calmly.

One more thing; if you are being physically abused (hit, slapped, thrown around) get out. That’s it. Out.

There’s nothing new in this list, except maybe Number 5, and you don’t have to do it that way. Regular deep breaths are also effective, as we all know. These techniques have been around forever because they work.

Seek counseling if you find that practicing these techniques is not having the effect of reducing your anger levels or the frequency of angry reactions.

Please share your experience with handling anger by leaving a comment. Other readers will be grateful learn from you.

Live your purpose every day.

What is Success?

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It’s more than your job or profession. There is inner success and outer success. Where you have inner success, your life reflects outer success. And vice versa.

You were born to succeed, no matter what. You set yourself up for success before you were born by designing your perfect life plan. You don’t have to be a high-powered sales genius, billionaire, an entrepreneur, or live a fast-paced, over-the-top, public life to be a success. You just need to be true to yourself.

If your life is somehow out of balance, not going well for you, if you are feeling empty inside, tired all the time, or unfulfilled it’s because you are running your life by someone else’s standards. It’s not your fault, and it’s not their fault. It’s part of cultural programming, and you can learn to change it.

You were meant to be the sole judge of whether you are a success or not. Only you know whether you are being true to yourself. Your feelings will tell you.

Start noticing what is happening in your body as you go about your day. When you walk out the door on your way to work, how is your stomach feeling? Is it tight or relaxed? How about your shoulders – relaxed or tight? Are you looking forward to your day or just hoping to cope?

How about the people in your life? What is happening in your body when you are with your spouse, your children, your friends and associates?

Suddenly becoming aware of your feelings can be overwhelming. But you don’t have to do anything about the feelings you notice. At first, just notice the feelings and sensations and whether they are negative or positive.

Obviously, the negative feelings are telling you that you need to make some changes. And the changes need to be made within you before appropriate outer changes can show up.

For example, perhaps you hate your job. An inappropriate outer change might be to immediately quit. However, quitting immediately could be appropriate if your working conditions are unsafe. You get the picture.

The same is true when resolving situations with people in your life. First, look within. What is your part in the situation? Again, it’s not your fault, it’s misunderstanding. Conflict means it’s time to learn.

In extreme cases, you’ll need to take immediate action. For example, if you are an abuser, get help now. Your life is precious. Don’t waste another minute of it abusing. If you are the abused, get out now. Then get help to clear abuse from your life.

For most of us, the circumstances are not so extreme. The key to resolving conflict in relationships is to first ask yourself what you have to learn from it. You are playing a role in the conflict even if you perceive yourself as the victim. Be kind to yourself and suspend judgment as you seek the answers you already have within.

Pay attention to the positive feelings you have, as well. Pat yourself on the back for all the joyful and fulfilling feelings in your life. You have created the circumstances that bring them to you.

You can make room for more good feelings in your life. For example, you may not like your job, but there are other things you enjoy doing or that you’re good at. You could take the time to pursue them. By honoring your good feelings, you are creating more possibilities.

Maybe you have a yearning to do something you haven’t even considered because it seems impossible. If you are yearning for something it’s a good indication that it has something to do with your life purpose.

You are in charge of your life. You can take control of it by taking responsibility for it. You have the power to change your life by changing yourself. Seek help when you need it. Help is everywhere.

I just read this over, and I think it might sound glib – like it’s the easiest thing in the world to be yourself. It’s not, and you have to work at it. Believe, me, I know. I’m sharing with you some things I’ve learned, and I’m still learning.

It’s part of everyone’s purpose to learn to live according to their own values and standards and to follow their own path. The rewards are beyond anything I could describe to you. So I hope you try it. You will like it.


Live your purpose every day.

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Fears about Numerology

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I realize that the idea of using numerology creates fear and suspicion in many people. After all, there’s been a great deal of bad press about occult science for centuries. It takes a leap of faith to consider using one of these sciences as a tool for self help.

Some people fear numerology will control them; tell them what to do. Numerology does not dictate anything. Numerology is a source of information, like your computer. It’s a powerful tool for exploration. You are the judge of the value of the information you receive. You can accept or reject it, just like anything else.

Perhaps this article will shed light and help allay some fears.

I go on and on about life purpose because the most important thing anyone can do is live their purpose, and I love to help people live their purpose.

But first you have to find it. You already know what your purpose is because it’s all organized and ready to go in your innermost mind – the mind of your spirit. You know by now that I go on and on about numerology. That’s because this ancient science enables you to discover your life plan quickly and easily. However, numerology is not the be-all and end-all of life. It’s just a fabulous tool to help you live your best life.

There are other ways to discover your purpose. One way is to pay attention to your feelings. Notice the way you feel when you are engaged in certain activities. Are they satisfying, do they make you happy, proud of your accomplishments? Chances are these activities are expressions of your life purpose. Are certain activities frustrating, a waste of time, boring? Your feelings may be telling you that these activities are not a part of your purpose, or they could be telling you something about the challenges that are a part of your life plan.

But life purpose is about more than what you do. It’s also about who you are; your core values and standards; those characteristics that make up your personality; your dreams,  desires, and feelings. You can be successful by simply learning to follow your feelings because your feelings are directly connected to your life plan.

Most people don’t pay much attention to their feelings. They go through life overriding their feelings because of certain ideas and beliefs. But feelings are the most important gage we have to direct us along our personal path to fulfillment. It can be tricky learning to discern true feelings from surface emotions, but that’s another subject.

When you calculate your Chaldean Soul Chart, your feelings will tell you whether it’s accurate or not. The interpretations will be confirmation of feelings you’ve had all your life – or they won’t. If you are using the name on your birth certificate, you will feel as if you’ve come home. If you can’t identify with the information you receive, you may not be using your name at birth.

Once you discover your purpose, you will likely need help implementing certain changes. You will find exactly the help you need at exactly the right time because you are in charge of your spiritual growth.

Learning more about your purpose in life is a great adventure. An author, life coach, and colleague of mine, Jerry Lopper, has written an e-Book called “Sample Personal Development Plan and Workbook,” that has an excellent module about life purpose in it, as well as dozens of exercises that can help you activate your life plan. Just follow the link: View at Amazon.

I hope this article has helped you. Leave a comment so I’ll know you’re out there.

And live your purpose every day.

Numerology in Everyday Life – Your Identity

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Who are you? This might sound like a silly question. We have many identifying markers  in our lives – driver’s license, Social Security Number, PIN numbers, card numbers, logins, badges, security codes. These identifiers provide us access and permission to conduct the business of our lives. But they are not about who we are.

Your true identity lies within you; it is contained in the unique energetic patterning of your soul. You were born with it. You can think of it as your electro-magnetic soulprint, a spiritual version of your fingerprint. It is reflected in the way you perceive life – feelings and preferences that may have nothing to do with your family influences. Your soulprint is reflected in the way you move, your tone of voice, your interests, longings, and desires.

Do you hate math but love to paint or write? Are you fascinated with science, obsessed with athletics, dream of being an astronaut? Are you pursuing your dream? Or have you put it on the back burner?

Some people are in tune with their true identity. These are the ones who pursue their dreams and don’t give up until they have achieved their purpose. Most of us have very strong reasons to let our dreams go. We don’t understand how important we are. And we pay a high price for that.

In numerology, there is a number that is the key to your soul’s identity. It is your Life Purpose number, and it is contained in the letters of your birth name. All the other numbers in your numerology profile enhance your Life Purpose number. You have a life purpose, even if you think you don’t. The most fulfilling thing you can do is to live your purpose. You are here on earth to be fulfilled, to enjoy life, and to be successful. If you don’t feel fulfilled, if you’re not enjoying life, and if you don’t consider yourself successful, there is something you can do to change it.

Go to Smashwords, Amazon, or Barnes and Noble and download my book, “You Were Born to Succeed: Finding Your Purpose through Numerology,” where you will learn to create your Chaldean Soul Chart. It’s easy; just follow the directions, and you really can discover your purpose in less than an hour. You will be amazed and delighted when you discover your unique soulprint.

You can change your life by taking one step at a time to fulfill your purpose. You can be one of those smart, happy, successful people who love life and spread joy just by being themselves.

Please leave a comment so I know you’re out there. Doesn’t matter if it’s negative or positive. I would love to hear about your experience creating your Chaldean Soul Chart. And I’m always here to answer your questions.

Live your purpose every day.


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