I subscribe to “Notes from the Universe” and receive an inspirational email from the Universe every day. The impact of this one was so profound for me, I just had to share it with you. I hope it may help all who read it re-discover the magnificent spiritual being that you are and the importance of your presence in the world. Forthwith, this wealth of wisdom.
The Top 10 Things About Time and Space That Most People Seem to Forget
10. You chose to be here and you knew what you were doing.
9. There are no “tests” and you’re not being judged.
8. Everyone’s doing their best, with what they know.
7. You already have whatever you’re looking for.
6. You are of the Divine, pure God, and so is everyone else.
5. Religion needs spirituality; spirituality does not need religion.
4. You’re naturally inclined to succeed – at everything you do.
3. You happen to life, life does not happen to you.
2. Order, healing, and love belie every moment of chaos, pain, and fear.
1. Following your heart is the best way to help others.
I have a fiery emotional nature, so I tend to blow up instantly when I am angry. Fortunately, I don’t get angry often any more because I’ve put a lot of dedication into resolving my anger issues. And I mean fortunately for myself as well as others, because I used to feel terrible after an angry outburst; guilty because I made the other person feel bad, and sad because I was still angry.
I’m going to share something about fighting that I learned in grad school. It’s so simple, I wondered why I hadn’t figured it out myself – but that’s what school is for. This technique alone was worth the money I spent for my education.
Even though the process is simple it’s not so easy, because you have to let go of your ego to make it work. So here goes.
There are three steps to successful outcomes with touchy subjects:
1. Diffuse your anger
2. Talk calmly about the situation
3. Talk about yourself, not the other person.
In my experience, there are two scenarios in which an argument can occur. One is in the moment when an irritating incident occurs and the other is some time after the incident, in which case anger has been simmering on the back burner for a while.
If you get angry in the moment, tell the other person you need to leave and will talk about this later. Then do something to diffuse your anger. If you’re angry about something that happened in the past, tell the person you’d like to talk. Make sure you are feeling calm.
For example, say your husband leaves his towels on the bathroom floor every time he takes a shower. You have spoken to him about this before (probably not so nicely) and you are angry about it.
The first thing to do is dissipate your anger energy. Screaming into your pillow, going for a run or to the gym, beating up your mattress, breathing deeply, or counting to 100 are all effective techniques. Just say nothing to your husband until the rage is gone. Then calmly state that you would like to talk to him about something and ask if this is a good time.
If it’s not a good time for him, set a time that will work for both of you. Wait respectfully until the appointment. No pouting, etc. At the appropriate time, tell him what you want to talk about. Calmly let him know how you feel when you find towels on the bathroom floor. For example, maybe you do your best to keep the house tidy and, when you trip over towels in the bathroom, you feel defeated, or like no one cares, or unappreciated. Whatever is true for you.
Do not accuse him. The basic language is, “When you do/say this, it makes me feel this way.” Now you are talking about yourself. It neutralizes the fight-or-flight energy of anger and opens up space for discussion. And it puts you in the driver’s seat in your own life when you are authentic about your feelings. You don’t have to resort to drama (pouting, yelling, shutting down, etc.) to make yourself heard.
I remember practicing this with a lovely man I was living with. I was really frustrated with him, but I didn’t want to be the old me and attack him. I decided to take responsibility for myself and try to work out some way we could both be winners.
He was remodeling the kitchen, and we had been without a sink for weeks. We washed dishes in the laundry room, and I used the kitchen table for preparing meals (no kitchen counter, either). I had asked him many times when he thought we could get a sink, and his answer was always about having the time.
At the end of my rope one day, I asked him again. Same old answer. I had been thinking about this for a long time, and I had a solution. I told him I had decided to do something about this that I could control; something to keep myself from going crazy. I could see that he was getting ready for a confrontation. Instead, I calmly said, “I’m not going to cook any more. We can eat sandwiches; it will be easier.”
The next weekend we bought a kitchen sink. He had it installed within days, including the new kitchen counter.
It felt so good to let go of anger and be myself throughout this process. And it opened up more space for loving in our relationship. When you are genuine, the other person is more likely to be genuine, as well. Anger makes people feel threatened, and they automatically take a defensive stand when confronted.
What if the other person doesn’t want to discuss the matter, but resorts to their own anger drama instead? Stay calm and end the conversation in a civil manner, such as, “I hoped we could talk about this. Maybe another time.” If you feel angry, take the time to dissipate the energy and let the incident go.
The key is that you are taking charge of your life by changing the only person you can – yourself. The other person may eventually take a cue from you and decide to open up. You can’t change anyone, but it only takes one person to create a safe space for change.
Are you living your life or reacting to life? Is your life fulfilling, or is there something missing? You are a very important person. You are the expression of divine creation. You have a specific life purpose. Many people have no idea they have a life purpose. They don’t think of themselves as important enough to have a purpose. Many may know they have a purpose, but don’t know how to find it.
Symptoms of Seeking Your Purpose
We are living in a time of global awakening, and an important part of that awakening is searching for your purpose in life. If you are experiencing frustration with your life, it could be an indication of your personal awakening. Your spiritual self knows your purpose and is trying to live it. If you are not in alignment with your purpose, your spirit may be letting you know you need to make some adjustments.
If you are not clear about your life purpose, you may be experiencing the following symptoms. You may be struggling with a sense of urgency that there’s something you need to do, but you don’t know what it is. You may be feeling empty or you may have a sense that there is something more, even though you are considered successful. You may be feeling exhausted, frustrated, or confused. Maybe you’re just tired of the same old thing, or maybe you lack direction.
My experience is typical. Even though I was living my life purpose, I felt restless. I had a feeling that there was something missing, and I was longing to know what it was. I was around age 35, when most people begin to take stock of their lives. Although I was unaware of it, a new and important numerological influence was coming into my life – the power boost for the rest of my life. When I discovered my Chaldean Soul Chart and understood its influence, I felt secure – as if I had come home.
Around the ages 35-45, we begin to awaken to more possibilities. If we are not following our life path, this time is described as a mid-life crisis. Unaware of what is happening to us, we may search for fulfillment by acquiring more things, such as our dream car, a big house with a pool, or a new relationship. In the long run, we find that these things do not fulfill us. There’s nothing wrong with acquiring things; it’s the reason for doing so that’s important.
The function of the midlife cycle is to prepare us to do our greatest work. If we are following our life plan, we begin our greatest work in our early 50s. Our whole life has been leading up to this time. It can be the most satisfying and fulfilling period of life if we are following our plan.
Why is Your Purpose Important?
Each of us has something special within us that no one else has. Our uniqueness contributes to the well-being of everyone on earth. No one is unimportant; nothing is unimportant. Your life affects everyone whether your dream is to be a homemaker or a rocket scientist. If you are living a fulfilling life, you are raising the energy of the entire world.
It’s important to live your purpose because your life plan contains critical goals you, as a soul, have set for your fulfillment. You deserve to live a joyful, miraculous, adventurous life. You are a brilliant creation meant to express your unique talents and abilities in the world.
Many of us have learned to put our dreams on hold in order to provide for ourselves and our families. We say we’ll start enjoying life when we retire, when the kids are out of school, or when the life situation of our choice has been fulfilled. But by the time we reach that place, we may have forgotten our dream or may have lost the impetus to achieve it.
No matter what your level of education is, you have already created the most important plan you will ever conceive of – your life plan. By utilizing it, you can achieve your Master of Life degree.
How to Discover Your Purpose
Numerology provides a quick, easy way to discover your life purpose. Numerology is an occult science that is emerging as a practical tool in modern times. It provides evidence of the work you and your spirit guides did before you appeared on earth. Many feelings, thoughts, and impressions you’ve had all your life will be confirmed when you discover your purpose.
There is a specific school of numerology called the Chaldean school that provides the best system for revealing your life purpose. My book, You Were Born to Succeed: Finding Your Purpose through Numerology, is one of the few written about Chaldean numerology. You can find it on www.lulu.com. It shows you how to reveal your life purpose by learning to create your Chaldean Soul Chart.
The book is written in two sections. Part I shows you how and why numbers can tell you so much about yourself. It clarifies and demystifies the occult world and shows how ancient sciences can help us in the modern world. Part II introduces the mechanics of numerology and shows you how to create and interpret your own Chaldean Soul Chart.
Your Chaldean Soul Chart is organized in two sections; the first section indicates your Core Qualities. Your Core Qualities pertain to your personality and values. They also reveal your specific purpose, the way you intend to accomplish it, your prime motivator, your lifestyle, and the power boost you chose to activate at around age 35. The second section indicates your Cycles. The Cycles section contains four subsections; your Pinnacles, Challenges, Personal Years and Months, and Unfinished business.
The Cycles section illustrates your past, present, and future. It shows the types of experiences you chose to attract to enhance your purpose and strengthen you (Pinnacles), those experiences that will challenge you and trip you up (Challenges), challenges you may have brought with you from past lives (Unfinished Business), and your personal yearly and monthly influences.
You Deserve Your Best Life
It’s never too late to live your purpose. Even if you are not in a position to make radical changes in your life, there are ways you can begin to incorporate your purpose into your life on a part-time basis or as a hobby. You will be rewarded by the sense of excitement and aliveness you experience.
I hope you use my book to help you create a joyous, fulfilling, and exciting life beyond your wildest dreams. Click on the Lulu button to your right to download it now.