A couple of weeks ago I had an expensive lesson in trusting myself. It is still playing like a movie in my mind. I see a big billboard with the words, TRUST YOURSELF!, in huge letters which consume its entire surface. I am through kicking myself about it and am now left with a dumb-struck sense of wonder at how I let it happen. I came to the conclusion that my spirit guides decided I needed a lesson I would never forget. Here’s what happened.
I was sitting in my car at a red light, peacefully waiting for it to change to green when the car behind me slammed into my car (whose name is Jane, by the way). Although the impact sent me ricocheting forward, then back, it was not enough to hurt me. Jane, however, suffered cosmetic and structural damage. She is at her spa right now, receiving treatment.
A few seconds after impact, before I had a chance to think about it, the driver of the other car was at my window saying that we should pull into a nearby side street so as not to block traffic. I knew this was a mistake, but as he pulled his car up beside mine, I followed him.
To make a long story short, I allowed him to take over the situation and ended up with nothing more than a name, address, and phone number taken from his strange-looking insurance card. After not hearing from his insurance company for several days, I contacted them and found out his insurance had expired several months ago.
I did some research and found that the phone number he gave me belongs to someone else, the address is not his, and his name is nowhere to be found. Clearly, the man is a phony. Now my insurance company is paying for the damage, I am paying the deductible, and I am grateful for the coverage.
My sense is that my insurance company will never find this man, but I could be wrong. What I am sure of is that, all through my exchange with this person, I knew he was lying and I didn’t challenge him.
I could blame Mercury, which was retrograde at the time; confused souls influencing me; lack of self-confidence; or all kinds of other things; but in spite of anything else, I knew. My inner knowing was right there, hollering at me, through the whole experience.
You have inner knowing, too. When it is hollering at you over the chaos of life, listen and act on it. Otherwise, you could have an expensive lesson, yourself.
Last time, I told the story of how my guardian angels helped me quit smoking. They have always guided me toward the light. They have offered insightful and inspiring guidance on the most mundane matters and on the most difficult times I have faced. They celebrate the good times with me, too.
Today I want to share some ways I have learned to receive clear communication and how I have learned to know the difference between my spirit guides and my own thoughts.
If what I share today makes sense to you, use it. If not, put it on a shelf for later consideration or let it go. We all make the right choices at the right time.
I like to call them my guardian angels. Choose the name you prefer to call yours (spiritual helpers, board of directors, team, etc.) They don’t care what we call them, they just want to communicate.
Who Are They?
Your spiritual helpers are experts you have contracted with to accompany you through life. They have lived through every experience in your life and learned the lessons you have chosen this lifetime. Some say that you have known these souls in past lifetimes. Their purpose is to guide us, not to tell us what to do.
Getting in Tune
In order to communicate with them, you need to raise your vibration to their level. The first step is to clear your energy. I’m sure many of you have effective ways to do that. I’ll share again a technique I use that you may want to adopt. It is simple, quick, and effective.
Stand or sit comfortably (you will be able to do this on the fly, as well, once you get the hang of it). Mentally say, “I invoke the light of the Christ within (or your name for the Creator), I’m a clear and perfect channel, light is my guide.” At the same time, visualize a point of white light in your solar plexus. Allow it to get bigger and bigger until it fills your body and envelops you in a bubble of white light.
Gently repeat the mantra and visualize the light until you feel goose bumps, chills, or a tingling sensation on your skin. This is the indication that you are on your guides’ wavelength and are close enough to feel the higher charge of electro-magnetic energy that emanates from them. When your energy meets their energy it causes these physical sensations.
It is helpful for some to add a physical action to this process. Rub your hands together to charge up your energy. As you repeat the mantra, pass your hands over the top of your head and down the back of your neck. Give them a little shake and pass them over your forehead and down the sides of your face. Shake your hands again and repeat the process as often as necessary.
How to Ask Questions
Let’s talk about yes-no questions first. It’s important to phrase the question in such a way that your helpers can offer an opinion or suggestion. Don’t ask if you should do something; they will not respond because they won’t tell you what to do. Ask their opinion, such as, “In your opinion, is it in the best interest of all concerned for me to … ?” Or, “Is it in my best interest to … ?” Or, “I have the impression that … . In your opinion, is this an accurate impression?”
For more detail, you can ask for an answer through one of your spiritual gifts; a picture, a feeling, or words. (See my posts on the four spiritual gifts). Simply stay relaxed and wait for the impression. This will take practice. Be patient with yourself. Stay tuned in to your body and make sure you can feel their presence in one of the ways mentioned above. If you lose contact, simply perform the clearing process again.
Establishing Your Signals, Asking the Question, and Verifying the Answer
You will need to be standing for this. Place your feet about 12” apart and perform the clearing process until you can feel the presence of your spiritual helpers. Your body will become a pendulum of sorts. You will be receiving “Yes” and “No” answers through the swaying of your body. You can close your eyes through this process or keep them open, whatever is most comfortable for you.
Establish your signals. Gently sway front to back an inch or two and say, “I want this to mean ‘yes’.” Now move your body left to right a couple of inches and say, “I want this to mean ‘no’.” Now center your body, make sure you are clear, and say, “Give me a ‘yes’.” Allow your body to be moved. Ask for a ‘no’ in the same way. Practice until you feel comfortable with the process. You only need to do this once.
Ask your question according to the directions above. To verify the answer to a question, relax and ask if the answer came from them. “Did that answer come from you?” You will feel your body sway in one direction or another. Then ask, “Did that answer come from me?” You will feel your body sway in the opposite direction if you are still clear.
Always verify your answers.
Respect the Process
This is an advanced communication technique. You are responsible to get and stay clear all through the process. If you fail to keep your energy tuned in to your guidance, you will get answers from entities who are confused. Then you will become confused. Spiritual practice requires discipline. It’s up to you to maintain the clarity that is necessary for success with this technique.
Meanwhile, congratulations! Your spiritual helpers are happy to be in closer contact with you.
The Ouija board was invented as a game, but it is a serious tool for contacting the spirit world, a world just as real as the physical. Many fear the Ouija board because it has often been misused. It is a powerful example of positive and negative energy and can be used safely and effectively if certain procedures are followed.
Ouija Boards are like Grand Central Station. The energy is wide open and there are thousands of people headed in thousands of different directions. If you don’t have a plan, you could get lost and confused. To say it another way, the Ouija board opens the door to all kinds of spiritual energy. You don’t leave the door to your house open so anyone who wants to can come in. Just as you choose who can come into your house, you need to choose who can come into your session.
You want to make sure you are connecting with the highest energy possible. Some people call this energy your guardian angels, inner guidance, or your higher self. You could think of this energy as your personal board of directors who has your best interest at heart.
Your inner guidance system has certain characteristics. It will not tell you what to do; it will only make suggestions or offer opinions when asked. You must make your own decisions. Guidance will not answer questions about anyone else unless you have that person’s permission to ask. If you find that you are being told what to do, you are getting gossip about someone else, or information is getting emotional or dramatic, you know you’ve lost your connection with spiritual guidance and are tuned in to a lower vibration.
Working with spirit is a natural process. When you learn the proper procedure you get the proper results. It’s like learning how to drive. Before you can drive a car, you have to learn the basics. You practice and practice until you have the skill to drive in traffic. And you always follow the same procedures every time you get into the car, no matter how long you’ve been driving, so you can safely get where you’re going.
Using the Ouija board and driving a car can both be lighthearted experiences if you follow the rules. I recommend you use the board only if you want help making decisions. Using it for any other purpose will only waste your time.
Now for the procedure. After you have set up your board in a comfortable, quiet place, you and your partner need to clear yourselves with one of the following techniques.
Rub your hands together until they feel warm and/or tingly. Pass them over your head and down the back of your neck. You can touch your skin or not, it works either way. Then shake your hands a couple of times and repeat passing them over your head and the back of your neck until you feel chills or tingling. You are now clear.
Close your eyes, take a couple of deep breaths, and visualize white light filling and surrounding you in a big bubble. When you feel chills or tingling sensations, you are clear.
Repeat the following to yourself until you feel chills or tingling sensations. “I invoke the light of the Christ within, I’m a clear and perfect channel, light is my guide.”
You may combine steps 2 and 3.
The next step is to clear the Ouija board and your space. Clear the board by using Step 2 above. Clear the room you are in by visualizing white light filling it. Or you could visualize a white tornado spinning around the room and filling it with white light. After that, set your boundaries by saying something like, “I seal this room against all negative vibrations.”
After clearing your space, you need to clear yourself again by following the steps above.
Be aware of your energy. You will need to clear during the session if you begin to feel tired, confused, or stressed. If you are nervous or tense, or if you have an emotional reaction to an outcome, you will receive confusing information. Just make sure you feel calm, chills, or tingling while you are working.
Have your questions ready. You may want to write them down. There is a particular way to ask questions to ensure you are getting answers from the highest source. Since guidance will not tell you what to do, don’t ask what you should do. Instead, ask what is in your best interest; for example, “Is it in my best interest to ……?” Or ask for an opinion; “In your opinion, will I get …….. ?” For more detail, you could ask something like “Who is the person you suggest I contact?” “What is your opinion/suggestion about…..?”
At the end of your session, you and your partner need to clear the board, the room, and yourselves, clearing yourselves last. You opened the door at the beginning of the session. Now you are closing it.
Clearing may seem like a lot of work, but once you get more experience, it will be second nature to you. You can use clearing in all kinds of situations. Before meditation, if you get sleepy during a meeting, if you’re in a hurry, your kids are out of control, you’ve got stage fright, or you’re nervous or stressed about anything, just take a few seconds to clear. A note: don’t clear anyone else without their permission. Teach them to clear, instead.
Please comment on the results you get using the Ouija board, or use the comments section to ask questions. I’m looking forward to hearing from you.